I Can't Believe This...

katiewhompus

I would also be concerned about the lack of licensing while working at a bar.

I would just not go.

cat1121

Wow.

I mean...wow. I can't really get my mind around this.

You nor your husband want to be in charge of serving anyone alcohol. I deal with this in a non profit group I work with. The bar carries something called dramshop insurance. It's not just for someone over-pouring and killing someone in a car...it's for a drunk person getting in afight, punching someone, teeth missing, etc. You don't want to deal with that AT ALL. Your husband probably couldn't get dramshop insurance to cover him because he isn't employed by anyone serving...and depending on your state the liqor license laws are a PITA.

I'd send a note and tell them your plans have changed...unless your husband is really close to this guy, which it sounds like he isn't.

mysticl

I had the same thoughts about the alcohol/liability issues.  When I was looking at venues there were some that we had to provide our own alsohol but they still provided the bartender. 

The only wedding I have ever been asked to "work" at was my cousisn's.  My aunt snagged me to help her cut and serve the cake.

This just so freaking (not my 1st choice of word) rude that it is beyond comprehension.  Also stupid how do they know these "workers" will be any good at their "job".  Could make it the worst wedding ever.  Hey there's an idea, go to the wedding (without a gift), have your husband bartend and only pour soft drinks all night because he is not comfortable with the liability related to serving alcohol.   

marisah83

Do not go.  It is incredibly rude to ask a guest to work at a wedding.  What decides if a guest is important enough to not have to work?  Tell them exactly why you guys are not going, and stay home.

irshis20

I would tell them that you have an even better idea for saving money at the wedding, and that is for you to not go.

jerseydevil

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cant-believe-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:207f66db-1c6c-4da7-995a-338c4c613815Post:ff6aa508-025c-465b-ba66-15fae95e6a30">Re: I Can't Believe This...</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe I'm a bitch, but I'd say okay and then not show up.
Posted by PandaBurr[/QUOTE]

That would be a pretty nasty thing to do - but karma IS a bitch! haha

Seriously, though, I just wouldn't go and would retract my "yes".

wadingmoose

That is awful.

Granted, at my first wedding, guests ended up working the bar, but that's because the bartenders we'd scheduled DID NOT SHOW UP.  It's not like we planned it that way and I felt AWFUL about it.