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Ghoti

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-gets-another-tattoo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:209a10b8-802d-47f5-bcbb-4da80a1e6fcaPost:b82b2f3a-bc3e-42b9-ab10-c4c82b2ef0b7">Re: Bridesmaid gets another tattoo</a>:
[QUOTE]At least she didn't leave in a blaze of angry glory.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
But thats my favorite exit!!!

shytownkelly

Late to the conversation but - I need to confess a bridezilla moment I had last month.

A friend of mine sent a note - asking for donations to St. Baldrick's - as she would be participating and having her head shaved.  For about 10 seconds my thoughts went to "OMG she'll be all fuzzy headed for the wedding in June!" (btw - we don't have a WP - but I expect lots of photos of my friends)

Yeah - then I snapped out of it - and promptly doubled my intended donation for being such a douche.

sbeatty2

I'm positive you could always get those tattoos edited out from pictures if they bother you that much... that way you don't have to see them the rest of your life, and you don't have to drive a wedge between your best friend and yourself.

I wouldn't want a skull/mermaid theme inbetween roses at my wedding either, fyi.

sklink0486

I agree with Mandi- how many pics have you seen of the whole wedding party up on someone's wall? These are just pics for you to look at in a photo album every once in a while- if she's your best friend, you don't want to remember how you were being rude and asked her to cover them up for those pics.

eviltwin13

My best friend tried to cover one of her own tattoos for her wedding. She had 3 others that weren't all that visible in pictures, but her parents asked her if she would cover up the very obvious one on her upper arm. To make them happy, she agreed. Unfortunately the makeup didn't really match her skin tone and it ended up looking like a smudge of reddish dirt - plus, you could still see the tattoo outlines underneath it anyway. So she decided to forget about it and just leave her arm the way it was. The wedding didn't stop because of it.

AnniePanic

I love my HUGE tattoos!! I have an entire back piece and some other smaller ones.I wouldn't cover them up for anyone, unless ofcourse I get a pay check in correlation for doing so... And, ya know, working. I can't believe how controlling some people are. The funny thing is, the op could have put a shrug on all her BM and no one would have suspected a thing. Thanks to whom ever quoted the OP, I'd be lost without you!

specialk84

I agree with PP about not editing them out of the photos.  If I looked at a friend's album and saw she photoshopped my tattoo out, I would be more pissed than if she asked me to cover it up.  

I think giving everyone a shawl is the way to go.

AbbeyS2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-gets-another-tattoo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:209a10b8-802d-47f5-bcbb-4da80a1e6fcaPost:b5f3a19d-0b45-4d0d-a043-dbabb56eeb9d">Re: Bridesmaid gets another tattoo</a>:
[QUOTE]One of my BMs offered to have hers covered/airbrushed for that day in case them being exposed would be an issue for a church wedding, but I told her it wasn't necessary. I have tattoos too (though just 2 and small, hers are numerous and large), so luckily FIs church/pastor doesn't mind. Otherwise we'd be looking for shawls or another venue.  <strong>IThe only time I see it being ok to ask her to wear a shawl or something is if you are dead set on getting married in a church that frowns upon exposed tats. Many churches also have specifications about bare shoulders and such, so this wouldn't be that different, IMO.</strong>
Posted by em01092[/QUOTE]

I think this says it all.  No one has a right to dictate someone else's body art, anymore than a bride has the right to tell her BP not to get KU before her wedding. 

I want to get my first tatt after our wedding, mainly because I am broke now LOL.   

jessuhmarie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridesmaid-gets-another-tattoo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:209a10b8-802d-47f5-bcbb-4da80a1e6fcaPost:84f42ac0-76f5-4714-b077-54f711759782">Re: Bridesmaid gets another tattoo</a>:
[QUOTE]Can't believe how many people on these boards defend your friend... Maybe I'm the only one that hates tatoos.   I do think it's messed up that she didn't think before she did it.. but I don't see why if she is your best friend you can't talk about it a little... just guage the conversation...  Of course you will take or leave it but It would be a nice if she came to see your side and choose to cover it up for you. So many people will come to regret their tattoos ... Your wedding pictures may be one of her reasons later anyway...  And theres always photoshop!   I don't think youre a jerk for asking either... 
Posted by midgemoto[/QUOTE]



ignorant..

I never post, but this really made me mad. Grow up

jerseydevil

Last wedding I went to, one of the bridesmaids had her tattoo covered by makeup. Obviously everyone could still see it and it just looked so much worse and drew more attention to it like that! I couldn't help but wonder if the bride asked her to cover it up (I'm sure she did) and I felt it was very wrong and made her look like a bridezilla.

modice11

I dont think there needs to be a discussion about it, per se. Maybe you could choose dresses or attire (I realize this would require sleeves) to wear its covered like you want it, but she doesnt have to know thats why you chose the dress.