Invitations

soon2bnaranjo

I'm not sure on how to do some of my invitations. At what age do you send people their own invites instead of including them on their parents? I thought i hear 18 before... if thats the case what do I do in the case that some of my cousins who are over the age of 18 have moved back or haven't yet moved out of their parents house? Do they get their own? or do i just put their names on the parents invite?
Thank you for any answers!!
 Hannah

fallingobsession

That just sucks... I mean yes, "etiquette," buuuuuut.... That's at least 88 cents postage plus the cost of the invitations to send a separate invite to the same house. Then if you put "and guest" that the additional cost of the young adult's guest, too. If you invite the entire family, then you can get away with the just the kid, no "kid's" guest and save the postage. I mean, I was even considering keeping the over 18s on their parents list if they lived in an apt. out of the house! (Ok, but I more than likely will send them their own...) We don't have the room to invite their guests, too, because my FH has sooo much family, we'd be over what our banquet hall would hold. Maybe, I'm just terrible, but I don't want somebody's college friend at our wedding... when they have their family there... significant other is one thing, but a random person b/c we're required to invite "and guest" I just kind of have a problem with that... =/

Clare13

I know its not right by etiquette, but I put family members under 21 on the same invite as their parents as long as they lived at home.  I did not want to put any of our cousins who are in high school or early college on the spot for buying us their own present.  (Granted I know that presents are not required and they can go in with whomever they want. But I always have felt that if you receive your own invite you provide your own present.)  We also did not invites guests for these people.  If they were over 21, living at home or not, we sent them their own invite and invited a guest for them.