An Open Letter to Guests

j-harvey

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Leenie10

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_an-open-letter-to-guests?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:229b55ed-0b12-4c14-9fe4-2bb0f82854b1Post:219ee315-573d-472a-a7ec-e7087bdbcf3c">Re: An Open Letter to Guests</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you all for your comments. Outside of the piling on, what came through is I need to learn to say no and grow a spine and/or learn the alphabet. Yet when I did say no to multiple things, I'm dickish, particularly to vegans apparently. The one question that was fair was - who are the people doing the inviting. That I should have said early on. One was the wife of the BM (she is responsible for a full extra table of people) and the rest are FI family members. People whom I will be meeting for the first time at the wedding. So while it would have been nice if FI would have said no, he was trying to not have that hanging over my head the first time I meet many members of his family. "Hi so and so - here is my wife who wouldn't let your kids, friends, whatever, come to the wedding."  As for the wife of the BM - we let it go so she wouldn't make him pull out of the wedding. I had to trust my Fi on that one since I don't have the history they do. I'm pretty much ending any participation on the boards. The one thing I can say is that in my paltry 60 something posts, I've never attacked anyone. I've never called anyone names or said some of the things that were said to me. So, again, thank you for all your comments and I hope everyone has a perfect wedding day.  
Posted by Tina3104[/QUOTE]

Tina - I sent you a PM.

DreamCLG7

god, sometimes this board is so ridiculous...yet  continues to provide me with so much entertainment. it's like a trainwreck in here, I just can't look away. OP was f'ing venting. Obviously, anyone with half a brain would know that she didn't send that letter out. GMAFB. Good grief.

and seeing as you don't know her (as so many were so quick to point out), then you do not know her guests, and therefore can't accurate ASSume you know what they have/have not done or said...

I flove how her not accomodating a gazillion special food requests makes her a d!!ck, but not telling guests they can't just add random folks is spineless.

christ on a cracker.