Semi-celebrity wedding

scarlettc27

When I read this, I couldn't help but think what this board would think about this. A Houston newscaster was married this weekend, and some of the aspects of her wedding have caused some talk: http://houston.culturemap.com/newsdetail/05-20-12-dominique-sachse-nick-florescu-wed-by-joel-osteen-amid-a-forest-of-orchids-roses-hydrangeas/ Cliff's Notes: 1. She and her husband were married by tv pastor/personality Joel Osteen, who requested no alcohol be served in his presence. No alcohol was served until he left. 2. She had a tiered wedding. It looks like about 150 of their 300 guests were not invited until a later time. I guess it just goes to show you that etiquette has nothing to do with social status or wealth, as the woman who hosted the wedding, Becca Cason Thrash is one of the most well-known Houston socialites.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I LOVE her dress.

The alcohol thing I can kinda get.  My pastor doesn't drink, and for weddings that are in our church with receptions in the church's gym, no alcohol is allowed.  We didn't have our wedding in our church, we did it in a nearby chapel, but we were still not allowed to drink before the wedding.  I didn't mind that, though.  My pastor told the groomsmen that if anyone drank before the wedding they would not be participating, lol.  They went outside post-ceremony to take shots.  We had alcohol and dancing at our reception, which isn't really done by lots of people that attend church where my family goes. 

Tiered weddings are shitty no matter who does them.  I think the rudest weddings are probably held by really rich-ass people, probably because they think they can just do whatever they want because of who they are.

MyUserName1

#1) ...I don't get why that's an issue or comment worthy or whatever.  If that's what they wanna do, I don't see that there's an etiquette issue there

#2) I don't think that's what the article meant.  I think they originally planned to have 100 people, but the guest list kept growing until it reached 300 guests.

ETA: Reading fail.  I missed the end paragraph about the second wave of guests arriving at 7.  Yeah, that's shiiittty manners right there.

adamar15

What's the problem with #1?

Muni, the article said the wedding started at 5, and then the second tier of guests started arriving at 7.

Maggie0829

I find that the higher social class you are in the wealthier you get the lower your etiquette tends to be.  Apparently when you have money and a high social standing that all the "rules" can be thrown out the window because you are "above" them anyway.  Makes me sick and this is why brides now-a-days think that this kind of thing is ok.

scarlettc27

Yeah, #2 struck me as worse. #1 is what a lot of my friends have focused on when talking about it on Facebook. Joel Osteen has a rep of being a diva, and this story seems to perpetuate it. But if the bride and groom attend his church and want him to marry them, they obviously respect him and will comply with his request.

RupertPenny

I love her dress too. 

AdeleDazeem

I really want to like her dress since I love lace, but I just don't.  The back just looks awkward to me and the front is generic.  I really do love the lace, though.

bananapants628

I love her dress. I think it's a nice change from the strapless look, although I'm not a big fan of the giant bow in the back.

I agree with everything you guys have said about point #2. Super tacky. It's not like they couldn't afford to have everyone there at the same time.

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]I find that the higher social class you are in the wealthier you get the lower your etiquette tends to be.  Apparently when you have money and a high social standing that all the "rules" can be thrown out the window because you are "above" them anyway.  Makes me sick and this is why brides now-a-days think that this kind of thing is ok.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]


Money does not equate high social standing, IMO.  At least where I come from.

There is a very large difference between new money  that tends to throw out all the rules and old money (even after it's all gone) keeps the graces they were taught earlier on.

And class has nothing to do with cash

smartlypretty

"The wedding took place at 5, the second tier of partygoers began arriving at 7. At 8 p.m., City Kitchen took over and provided a lavish buffet spread that had everyone swooning."

At least they fed the second tier. I don't agree with that they did (tiers are rude, no matter HOW you do them), but I think the rudest ones are the kind where your second tier shows up and your elite guests have already been fed dinner. Throw a cash bar in there for the late comers and baby you have a stew going. 

But I understand people usually tier to save money. If everyone was eating dinner at 8pm, what's the rationale for not letting everyone see you get married? Put some extra chairs down, jeez. 

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Semi-celebrity wedding : Money does not equate high social standing, IMO.  At least where I come from. There is a very large difference between new money  that tends to throw out all the rules and old money (even after it's all gone) keeps the graces they were taught earlier on. And class has nothing to do with cash
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

<div>Thank you for saying what I was thinking.  :)</div>

Snippylynn

I hate the cake. H.A.T.E.

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Semi-celebrity wedding : Money does not equate high social standing, IMO.  At least where I come from. There is a very large difference between new money  that tends to throw out all the rules and old money (even after it's all gone) keeps the graces they were taught earlier on. And class has nothing to do with cash
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

I guess I have just never had good experiences with either new or old money families.  Both groups treated the lower class or less wealthy as unimportant and pointless.  I guess my experiences cloud my judgement.

QueerFemme

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[QUOTE]I hate the cake. H.A.T.E.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

OMG  Me too!  It looks like they tossed an old tablecloth over it.

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]I hate the cake. H.A.T.E.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

I'm thinking the cake was suppose to resemble the back of her wedding dress.  But to me it looks old and stale.

bananapants628

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[QUOTE]I hate the cake. H.A.T.E.
Posted by Snippylynn[/QUOTE]

omg I just saw the cake. gross.

sbelle85

Dominique Sachse is not a nice person in general, so I'm not surprised by her total lack of etiquette and the tiered reception. I can assure you from personal experience she is definitely a person who feels that she's "above the rules" - etiquette or otherwise.