Dear All,
My boyfriend and I were discussing marriage. We are planning to get engaged and were discussing what we would like. Well, needless to say to my shock when I suggested that I would like to have my brother as part of our bridal party. ( I only have one sibling)
Much to my shock , he said absolutely not!
It isn't the case where they don't like each other or don't get along in fact quite the opposite. He feels that to be selected as groomsmen is an honour and should only be the closet and most important folks to him and he just doesn't feel close to my brother.
Needless, to say there was nuclear fallout!
He has both a sister and a brother and I would have no problem including them if that's what he wanted but I was basically told that he would rather not get married at all than made to feel awkward on his wedding day by asking someone to be a groomsman that he wouldn't want
He claims that the selection of bridesmaids is up to the bride and the selection of groomsmen is of to the men!
What do I do? He said we can include my brother by asking him to read a prayer of the faithful, but that's not what I want. It certainly wouldn't be the same.
I don't foresee myself ever getting married and excluding my brother I would rather have a small get together with no guests and no bridesmaids and groomsmen if I can't have those closest to me included.
Anyone have any insight as to how we might resolve this. At the moment I am still floored at his reaction and emphatic NO.
All opinions welcome.
Thanks.