I have a question about inviting disabled guests to a wedding that you know they physically won't be able to attend. Some backstory: I got engaged and selected my wedding venue -- a beautiful old building that was originally constructed as a synagogue and is now an event space -- several months ago, and I'm not getting married until September. In the interim, I've become much better friends with a work colleague who uses a wheelchair. I am inviting a few other colleagues/work friends and would like to invite her, however, there is no way she will be able to access the building -- the ceremony and the dinner will be held in a loft on the second floor, and the cocktail hour in between will take place on the ground floor, but the bathrooms are a floor below. So my dillemma -- do I invite her (and thereby make her feel obligated to buy a gift), but then have to tell her that the venue is inaccessible and she won't be able to attend? Or do I not invite her, and tell her that's why? Or just not mention it at all? I feel very awkward and bad about this whole thing, however, I'm definitely not inviting the entire office, so it's not like she will be the only person from my job that doesn't get an invite.
What would you do?