Inviting Second Cousins

MissOwl

Can you settle an invitation conundrum for me?

My mom and I were talking and she seems to think that inviting only a few of her cousins (my second cousins) is ok. The three cousins she is referring to are around a lot and we are close to them. There are about 12 first cousins though (most live out of state). 

I thought you had to invite the whole group or none in the group at all. I can't really remember if this extends to second cousins though. 

Can we invite just a few second cousins who we are close to without inviting them all?

Your input is much appreciated.

xyrius

I believe that you can in this circumstance.

[Deleted User]

Hey Miss Owl!

Yeah, I believe it is okay to only invite the second cousins whom you are close with or see frequently. I had this argument with my Mom as well and while we ended up inviting them anyway, most of them rsvp'd no.

And besides, if you invite those whom you haven't seen or heard from in a while, then it just looks gift grabby.

kcscejal

Yeah, that should be ok.

sarahfowler38

I think it's okay. I personally ended up inviting all the second cousins on my mom's side even though I'm not super close with most of them. I mostly did it though because my grandfather passed away recently and they were all very important to him, so I looked at it as a way to have him there.

While I definitely think it's fine for you to only invite the ones that you are close to, I hope for your sake that it's easy to draw the line. That was my biggest issue with the guest list in general.

MissOwl

hi missysue :waves:

thanks for the info ladies. it's a very easy distinction (i see three of them regularly) and barely know the others. i am happy to hear that this is ok.

thanks!