Don't know what to do!

ECI1151

Okay I need some advice. My first problem is that I'm not sure how to incorperate my fiances sister into the wedding. I have a brother and he is going to be an usher so I really feel like I need to have her do something I am just not sure what. She is 21 so shes too old to do flower girl stuff. So, does anyone have any ideas?
Also, I am trying to figure out what to do with the grandparents. One set of my grandparents are getting up there in age and my grandpa has serious back problems and I just could not imagine them being able to make it down the isle and then my other set of grandparents are divorced and still don't get along even though its been like 20 years) so they would have to walk down separately. Then my fiancés grandparents are younger, not divorced, and in good health..and his grandmother is the kind of person that will for sure find something to be offended by at the wedding no matter what we do. So, basically I don;t feel its fair to have some grandparents walk down ahead of everyone as part of the processional and not others and also given the fact that one set of m grandparents are divorced and would probably have to walk down separately I don't want to have this huge processional with way to many sets of people walking down before me. So...any advice on what to do in that situation? Thanks in advance to anyone who has advice!!

danieliza1127

Have your FI's sister be an Usher as well.

Don't have grandparents walk down the aisle.  Have them already seated when the processional/ceremony starts.

baystateapple

She can be an usherette -- have her wear a dress that either matches or coordinates with the BM dresses.  Or she can be a guest. 

I'm not having my grandparents introduced -- my grandmother is very shy and wouldn't be able to handle it, so we're just letting that part go.  They don't need to be introduced.

twilight.rose

Ditto the other ladies. Have the grandparents seated prior to the processional.

Your FSIL can either be an usher, or you could have her do a reading. Anything else is a pity job, not an honor.

squirrly

Either seat all the grandparents just before the processional starts, or have them process.  You don't have to leave huge gaps between them - half the aisle will do. 

For your FSIL, usher or reading seem reasonable. 

ECI1151

Thanks for all of the answers everyone! Not having the grandparents introduced is what I want to do. We are mostly just worried about my fiances grandmother being mad that she doesn't get to be introduced and stuff. But I guess if she  gets mad I will just have to explain to her that it is the only way to be fair to everyone.

squirrly

Being introduced at the reception and being seated at the ceremony are different.  We didn't have the grandparents introduced at the reception, but they did process down the aisle to sort of "kick things off".

AbbeyS2011

Sounds like you have it all sorted out - good post/question!

PS:  If your FSIL does not want to be an usherette, ask her what role (if any) she would be comfortable in.  I have heard of some ladies wanting to be the Flower Girl, since they never were as a child!