Interesting blog

kd.joseph

I hate that people have to make those kind of decisions. And I don't mean to sound philosophical, but in the end what does he have? You know?
This is what  "they" talk about when people are so hateful, and full of animosity that it just eats them up inside. And they die alone and lonely.

I'm sorry you had to make that decision.

I also was stuck in a financial situation when I was married. Which isn't an excuse but she may have that hanging over her head also. But she has a talent I don't think she recognizes. And she will be better off in the long run. Low self-esteem? She also keeps referring to herself as fat, and she's not.

tlv204

That's heartbreaking. I can't stand how much she is blaming herself. In the first post about it, she says something about her true friends talking her off the ledge, and defriending those who told her to "jump." I'm assuming she's being figurative, and now I"m wondering if she has cut ties with anyone who told her to leave her husband. That would be nuts.

Also, I think we discussed this a while ago, but I don't like how she is forcing him to do all kinds of stuff like texting the mistress and breaking it off/telling her he never loved her, deleting contact info, etc. I mean I don't blame her for telling him to do that at all, but I just think the fact that he isn't doing any of it on his own really really doesn't bode well for their future. I'm 100% positive that the second she stops micromanaging him, or probably before, he'll cheat on her again. Probably with the same woman. I won't ALWAYS say once a cheater, always a cheater, but any time the cheatee has to demand that he end the relationship, there's no way that was just a "mistake."

kd.joseph

I have to agree.

AmoroAgain

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[QUOTE]That's heartbreaking. I can't stand how much she is blaming herself. In the first post about it, she says something about her true friends talking her off the ledge, and defriending those who told her to "jump." I'm assuming she's being figurative, and now I"m wondering if she has cut ties with anyone who told her to leave her husband. That would be nuts. Also, I think we discussed this a while ago, but I don't like how she is forcing him to do all kinds of stuff like texting the mistress and breaking it off/telling her he never loved her, deleting contact info, etc. I mean I don't blame her for telling him to do that at all, but I just think the fact that he isn't doing any of it on his own really really doesn't bode well for their future. I'm 100% positive that the second she stops micromanaging him, or probably before, he'll cheat on her again. Probably with the same woman. I won't ALWAYS say once a cheater, always a cheater, but any time the cheatee has to demand that he end the relationship, there's no way that was just a "mistake."
Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]

I agree completely.  You set it out better than I did. :)

Kd, that's exactly what I said about him.  It doesn't matter anymore, he's dying but he can't see that he's so destructive.