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sent out too many save-the-dates!

starrykatstarrykat
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Ok - I have a huge dilemma!  I have about 180 people on my guest list (providing everyone brings a guest).  When I had sent out the save dates, I didn't really realize the limit on the reception room.  It can fit up to 135 people. I should've thought more before sending a save-the-date to everyone.  I hear that typically about 20% don't come to your wedding but that still leaves me extra people.  I don't know what to do!  I would hate to cut anyone because I know it's rude.  Anyone have suggestions?!

Thanks for your help!
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  • RachNRichRachNRich member
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    Look for a different reception venue? 
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  • NebbNebb member
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    Lucky for you no one knows where the venue is so you can find a new one. You cant NOT invite them all now, and you also cant assume any certain amount wont attend. You cant forcast that.
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  • aggiebugaggiebug member
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    did you put "and guest" on the save the dates? if not that looks like your best place to cut invites. 

    That or change the venue!
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  • tlv204tlv204 member
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    Yep, looking for a new venue is about all you can do.
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  • shellydiane820shellydiane820 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sent-out-many-save-dates?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:28d7af8c-438b-4adc-9ca0-47d7c1687b71Post:f8f02aa9-f26e-4d68-9769-7f13e12db986">Re: sent out too many save-the-dates!</a>:
    [QUOTE]did you put "and guest" on the save the dates? if not that looks like your best place to cut invites.  That or change the venue!
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  • kellyjellybellykellyjellybelly
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    This might seem obvious, but does your venue have multiple rooms?  Can the combine rooms to make it larger?
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  • ggmaeggmae member
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    Ditto PPs. Find a new reception venue. And with 3 months left, it IS possible. I found another venue 5 weeks before my wedding.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    You need to find a new venue.  One that can seat 180.  You always plan on 100% yeses until you actually get RSVPs.  
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  • amagwireamagwire
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    Agree with the 'and guest' question.  If your friends don't bring guests will this bring the count down? Of course, if you put 'and guest' in the STD, you're obligated to allow them to bring one and therefore, need to find an alternative for your reception. 
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  • jandoweddingjandowedding
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    Find a new venue. You can't predict how many people will or won't show. And you certainly can't uninvite people.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Did you send STD's with the 'and guest'?

    And how many of those who received  STDs are in relationships?
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  • smokeybaileysmokeybailey member
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    different venue.
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    What the heck were you thinking? Find a new venue, quickly.
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