Rude to post an RSVP reminder?

karajohnson17

The "kindly reply by date" on our RSVPs is fast approaching(3 days) and we have only received about half of the responses.  Would it be rude to post a reminder on our wedding website? 

We have some head-count deadlines coming up and I don't want to be constantly updating...

jessicabessica

Wait until a few days after your RSVP date (so that the ones mailed on the RSVP date will have arrived), and then start calling people.  I suspect you will get many more in over the next few days--many people wait until the last minute.  I don't think a website reminder is worth it--you could offend people, and I assume that anyone looking at your website already has it on their mind and knows to RSVP. 

strlzfan11

Yes.  Wait a few days past the RSVP date to contact those who haven't responded and then do so by telephone.  Posting reminder on websites is just asking for trouble.

pokepoke27

You shouldn't post a reminder. For several reasons.

1.) These people are adults. It's pretty rude to treat them like idiots. 

2.) The RSVP deadline hasn't even passed yet. 

3.) People dont' actually check your website every day anyways. And generally, the ones that do look at it frequently are probably the ones that have already RSVPed. 

Give it until a weekish after the date before you start chasing people up. 

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rude-to-post-an-rsvp-reminder?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:29e4e80e-ada0-45fe-bea7-50ab76f93696Post:43ccf74b-d6f3-4b16-958c-dd613be37b0f">Re: Rude to post an RSVP reminder?</a>:
[QUOTE]Wait until a few days after your RSVP date (so that the ones mailed on the RSVP date will have arrived), and then start calling people.  I suspect you will get many more in over the next few days--many people wait until the last minute.  <strong>I don't think a website reminder is worth it--you could offend people, and I assume that anyone looking at your website already has it on their mind and knows to RSVP. </strong>
Posted by jessicabessica[/QUOTE]

Get out of my head.

mcskatcat

I would contact people individually.  Chances are people aren't looking at your wedding web site if they have forgotten about the deadline.   

karajohnson17

We get quite a view visits to our wedding site, but yes, it could be people who are super pumped and checking it often.

I am in no way trying to be rude(obviously, if I'm concerned about the ediquette) nor am I trying to treat my guests like idiots or children.  I was partly thinking of a solution to an oops we made on the RSVPs-- my cousin designed them, and they're awesome, but the font color for the reply by date is very faint.  Yes, I know people have eyes and can see, but we realized later that maybe not everyone noticed it. 

We will contact others a week after the date individually... Thanks for the input!

Summer2011Bride

I'm glad you decided to contact them individually. Even though it's a website geared toward your wedding, I wouldn't do it. Not as bad as all the posts I unfortunately see on FB "kindly reminding" people to RSVP. Yuck, those are horrible.

You're doing the right thing. And we still had a large amount trickle in the few days after our deadline. I think a lot of people waited until the deadline to drop them in the mail.