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Got an invitation today...

I got an invitation to one of my friends weddings today... It's just addressed to me, but I'm engaged and there is a "Number of persons" on the RSVP. Is it impolite to call her and ask to bring a "plus one"? Or is this tacky? I obviously don't want to go to a wedding without my Fiancé... Any ideas?

Re: Got an invitation today...

  • I don't think its rude - she probably just messed up.  If she doesn't let you bring a +1 then just don't go.
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  • Does she know you are engaged? If not, it may have just been an oversight.

    Either way I think it's fine if you call, she breached etiquette, not you.
  • It  might have been an oversight on her part since your FI should be invited.  Instead of asking if you can bring him, ask if she meant to include him or if the invite is for you only.  There's a slight difference because you're just asking for clarification.
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    It would be rude to assume that it means more than just the person to whom it was addressed.  I agree with Danieliza that you should ask if it is for you only.
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  • She might not have done the address labels for the invites so she might not even know about the error, if she knows your engaged.
    Call and see if the invites is just for you like DanielLiza said instead of coming right out and asking if you can bring your FI.
    Things always seem to go my way, if I'm tactful about how I ask/word something. :)

    I'm sure it was just an overlooked error.
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  • I would call her and ask for clarification.  Just because the RSVP says "Number of Persons" doesn't mean she automatically intended to allow you to bring him (if she didn't, she's bring rude, but it still doesn't mean she meant to include him).  In my opinion the "Number of Persons" thing is more for invitations for families, then if a few people are coming and a few people aren't, they fill in how many out of the total number invited are coming.  It's also for singles who are invited with a guest, since then they can fill in one or two.  But you're not single, and apparently weren't invited with a guest.  If anything you would have been invited as a couple, so that's why you should call and clarify.
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