Escort Cards

agrzecka

We are doing small envelopes that are addressed to the family or couple ie: "Mr & Mrs. Tom SoandSo" or "The Whatever Family" in each envelope is their table assignment and drink tickets. We figured less work for us and saves them time finding 2-7 tickets (depending on the couple). Heres the thing....some of our single friends are bringing guests (some we know, so we know their names) some we do not. Is it inappropriate (since they didn't write a name on the RSVP beside their own to write Mr. Thomas Train & Guest...or should we hunt down the names of all these people?!??!

FutureMrsDudley55

It is more proper to find out the name of the guest. We definitely did. I went to a wedding where DH's cousins GF was a guest, and they just listed her as, "Guest." She was pretty offended that they didn't bother to find out her name.

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Definitely try to find out people's SO's names. Like Mrs. Dudley said, it is more personal that way and the guest knows you it was important for them to be there.

rbtrumpet

definitely try to get names!

I went with a friend of mine to a wedding as her "date" and ended up being "Mr. John Doe" for the entire evening because the bride assumed my friend was bringing her boyfriend (who lived 1/2 way acrossed the country at the time).  I wasn't offended, I thought it was funny, but it would have been nice to actually have my name instead.

squirrly

Get names.

However, the much more problematic issue here is the drink tickets you mentioned.  Those are really, really not appropriate at all and should be avoided.

danieliza1127

You might be interested in reading this:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_reception-ideas_seating-cards-double-drink-tickets

agrzecka

What else would people recommend. I read all of that post that was suggested. After I just feel more overwhelmed. My post was more about getting help with wording and now I am having to throw something else in the mix by completely changin our plan for alcohol with only 3 weeks to do. What else would people suggest that wouldn't be tacky? We are getting married in the early afternoon so we are trying to consider that as well.

squirrly

If it were me, I'd see how far my money would go for beer & wine at my venue.  Can you do a couple bottles of wine on the tables and a keg that the bartender can serve from?  Then if people want something extra, they can pay for it.  But, it provides something consistent throughout the night, and your guests don't have to remember to carry tickets around with them. 

I've heard of people stealing drink tickets at weddings, loosing them & not getting any drinks, etc.  It's just a lot of hassle for your guests.

First step, though, is to call your venue and ask what alternatives they have, and go from there.

agrzecka

We have looked into other options as well. The hard part is trying to figure out how many drinks is average per person so we can decide what we are offering at the reception. Is there a good way to sorta guess that number? Also if we provide say beer, wine and soda and the rest is cash bar, how do you let guests know that tactfully?

squirrly

One drink per hour plus one extra drink per 4 hours is the best guestimate I've seen, and it held pretty true for our wedding, too.  But, you have to count ALL your guests for that - even the ones who don't drink - because it relies on averages to really be accurate. 

Bud Light, Chardonnay, Merlot, and soda are available compliments of the Bride and Groom.

Put that on a sign at the bar, and it implies that anything else the guest would have to pay for.

agrzecka

Thanks! we will look into it.