Lurker with a question...

SarahPLiz

Kiki, I agree

cooper0314

Yup! Planned ours in less than 4 months, cross country (we live in Cali, married in TN) and while DH was deployed  

starryeyed2011

Cupckesfrosting, I got engaged on Valentines Day and am getting married next fall, over a year from now. I was hoping to plan everything next year closer to the wedding, but people are telling me I have to do it now which stresses me out.

Red1115, I don't understand the point you're trying to make. But I know some people think it is unlucky to get married that weekend.

amandajean36

look at the Sept 2011 board.  alot of girls have 9.10.11 already booked...because its popular.  at least book your venues ASAP.

coleandalexia2010

It IS possible. I got engaged one month ago exactly, and our wedding is in September. It's been a whirlwind... I don't recommend planning a wedding in 2 months, but it can be done!

Calypso1977

its totally possible.

i got engaged July 3, we married in Feb, and the church and venue were booked within a few weeks, i ordered my invitations first or second week of August.  with the exception of the seating chart, everything was complete adn ready to go before the holiday season.  we honestly woudl have married sooner had it not been for the holidays, and i wish we'd married in late january rather than mid-feb.  its a myth, IMO, that you need a year+ to plan.  once you pick a venue, everything else falls into place pretty quick.

M&R7111

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lurker-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ddff028-43bb-4b1a-ab1c-94de3722a78bPost:2b077e31-5a6c-4442-9370-54abb1fc3cfe">Re: Lurker with a question...</a>:
[QUOTE]THANK YOU LADIES. This is totally what I thought, but nobody agreed with me. They were telling me my date was "common" even though it's a year out and nobody lives near me! Umm hello? I didn't realize people here were psychic too LOL! This has made my stress level go down quite a lot!! Thank you :)
Posted by starryeyed2011[/QUOTE]

No - If I remember correctly, you wanted the date 9-10-11 - which is a date MANY people will try to get because of the sequence.  Just like 7-7-07 and such.

You said that you weren't looking for a venue because it was a year away - but the advice given was BECAUSE of the sequenced date, it will fill up faster than other dates like 9-12-11.

Anyone can plan an wedding in a few months, but don't count on this date hanging around forever.

heyimbren

Starry- I never read your first post, I've only read this one.
But do listen to the girls, they are trying to help.

You sound like you have your heart set on the 9-10-11 date. If that is the date you want, then you SHOULD book things that are important to you for the wedding now. For example, if you want a really popular place where you live that is a beautiful reception venue or church, book it now. But if you are willing to be more flexible with where you have your ceremony and reception, you can put it off a bit longer. If you do put it off, don't be surprised when many things are booked already.

So you have some options then:
1) Choose a different date that won't be as popular, then you can relax for a bit;
2) Keep your 9-10-11 date and make some choices now if you're going to be picky and want something "fabulous";
3) Keep your 9-10-11 date and put off planning just because you don't want to plan yet, but you may be disappointed with what options you have left.

Which option sounds best to you?

M&R7111

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_lurker-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ddff028-43bb-4b1a-ab1c-94de3722a78bPost:9598b547-0621-4c9a-b74a-f5cfff6e6e32">Re: Lurker with a question...</a>:
[QUOTE]Kikibaby, I'd like to hang out here more, yes LOL! Its very entertaining when I have lots of time and nothing to do. I guess you could say I've been "planning" by wedding since before I got engaged. Pretty much ever since I met my fiance. I love to look at different ideas and ways to be more fabulous. I love seeing all the details people are doing for their own weddings. I want my wedding to be unforgettable for everyone there. I just don't want to have to make final decisions about it this far ahead, and being told I have to just makes me mad.<strong> Thank you to all the people who helped that did NOT follow me from my other post.</strong>
Posted by starryeyed2011[/QUOTE]

You mean, thank you to the people who told me what I want to hear, and did so because I didn't give them all the information.

Of COURSE you can plan in a few months.  What you left out in your OP here to everyone is you want a specific date, 9-10-11.  I'm pretty sure their advice will change after knowing that.

Beachy730

I planned my wedding in 5 months.  We had about 200 people, it was very formal, in my opinon my wedding was fabulous (but I think every bride has the same opinion!), and many people told me it was the most fun wedding they had ever been too.  We planned in 5 months, but we planned smart.  So yes it is entirely possible to plan a wedding in less than a year, and yes it is entirely possible to book venues only a few months out.  The difference my wedding (and I think some PP's who did short planning times) is:

1.  My date was a Friday night instead of a Saturday
2.  My date had no numerical signficance, 7-30-10
3.  We were flexible on dates

Why do you want 9/10/11?  Because you like the numerical sequence of it?  Same with many brides.  And if thats not the reason, you need to understand that it is the reason for many people.  Thats the same reason 7-7-07 was so popular, as well as 8-8-08, etc.  If you have your heart set on that date, which it sounds like you do, then you need to step up and book a venue.  You said you want to have a great wedding, so as much as you don't want to do it, you need to book a venue now.  If you do decide to wait, you will to be fine settling with whatever venue is available at the time, whether its some rinky-dink place, or a super expensive place.  Any vendors you have your heart set on should also be booked now to guarantee they are available. 

I can understand you are getting frustrated because you are not hearing what you want to hear.  But thats because we are all experienced, and know what we are talking about.  If you don't care what type of wedding you have, then by all means, wait it out until you are "ready" to start planning.  But if you want a nice wedding ON THAT DATE and have specific things in mind for it, then you need to start planning now. 

So you can tell us we are stressing you out by telling you that you need to plan now, but just imagine the stress you are going to have when you have already sent out your STD"s for your 9/10/11 wedding and then find out that everything is booked and you can't have your wedding that day. 

mica178

I planned/am planning my 10-10-10 wedding in 9 months.  Now, at the beginning, I was constantly in a panic because all of the venues I contacted were already booked.  But this just forced me to look at less-typical reception sites, and I absolutely love my reception venue now. 

I'd just start looking now.  If a place says they're booked, you can ask them to call you if things change (you'd be surprised by how many calls I've received asking if I was still interested because of cancellations).

JanoBean75

Starry, everyone is making a valid point that you seem to be missing.

Your date is popular with many couples because of the sequencing. No one is telling you to choose your invitations, your flowers, your colors, your food, your cake now. The one thing you should choose now is your venue (or venues if you have a church wedding and separate reception). All the other stuff can wait until a little closer to your date; however, you should at least compile a list of vendors you're interested in so you have options. You'd be surprised how quickly the good ones get booked. As long as you lock in a vendor, you may not have to lock down your idea, thus giving you the flexibility you want.

sarahbelle7986

We planned our entire wedding in exactly 2 months from engagement to wedding! As long as you are organized and flexible it can totally be done! Good luck and have fun! Staying super organized really is the key!!!

jnic0319

I wanted a September wedding, that's it not even a specific date.  We started actively looking for venues in august 2009 and I could not find anywhere I liked with a September opening.  I ended up getting the end of October.

You can definitely plan a wedding in a few months, that's not the issue...but it means possibly getting stuck with a date in the winter, or a friday on the hottest week of the year.  If you are date specific, ESPECIALLY with a popular date like 9-10-11 you better start moving quickly.  I have a friend who wanted 9-10-11 and decided to wait until now to look, she can't find a venue open for that date now.