Using Grandparents Wedding Date-- Rude?

lauraweston2

My grandparents will be celebrating their 50th anniversary this coming June. I would like to get married next year on their 51st anniversary. I thought it'd be romantic and sweet and it would give them their 50th to celebrate how far they've come.
Is it weird to use their date? It lands on a Saturday which is perfect and its June which is typical wedding time.
I'm just very interested in what others may think..?

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I think it's a sweet idea.  I'm sure your grandparents will be thrilled.

jessicabessica

I like it, but you should just ask your grandparents to make sure, and then you won't have to worry about it anymore.

Ven&Radio

We're getting married on my fiance's grandparents wedding date, but we didn't know that until after we booked the venue.  His grandfather passed away, but his grandmother is thrilled that we're going to share her anniversary.  We're planning on giving her the bouquet at the reception.

AddieCake

We got married the 24th of March, and both sets of my grandparents had been married on the 25th. I have only one of my grandparents still surviving, and he was thrilled. 

Summer2011Bride

I think it's a sweet idea but if you are unsure, I would talk to your grandparents about it.

AdeleDazeem

Ask your grandparents, but I'd find it hard to believe that two people who have been married so long, seen so much, raised children/grandchildren, and understand the most important parts of life would still be saying "No, that's OUR day.  You get your own day."

But, you don't know until you ask!

mlg78

I think it's sweet but I would ask permission to "share" the date with them as it has brought them so many happy years together and I'm sure they couldn't say no to that!

Jen4948

Well, in reverse example, my grandmother remarried after my grandfather died, on the day before my parents' anniversary, which was announced at the reception.

I think it's nice, but when in doubt, check it out with your grandparents.

lyndausvi

I don't think so.  My aunt was married on my grandparent's anniversary athen one of her kids got married on the same day.   Grandparents were married for 52 years at the time of granddad's death  Aunt was married 47 years at my uncle's death.   Cousin is going strong at 30+..  

They all thought it ws wonderful they got married that day.      I also come from a HUGE extended family.  Grandma was one of13.  Mom was one of 52 grandkids.  I have 24 first cousins.   We do not subscribe to the thought anyone gets a hold on a specific day.   If we did, no one would be able to get married, because our family tree has most of the dates taken already.


ETA - I also think the "OUR DAY" train of thought is a new one.  I don't know anyone in real life who actually thinks their anniversary or birthdays are exclusively "their day". Muture adutls get that many other events (weddings or otherwise) happen on the date. also.

sleepyb

My FI and I are getting married on the day of my parents' 39th anniversary. We did ask first. It worked out that its a Saturday this year. They are happy to share with us.

StephJean83

My maternal grandparents passed away 6 months from each other during my Freshman year of college. I always wanted to honor them in some form at my own wedding and in 2014(the year that worked best for us to get married), their anniversary falls on a Saturday.

I asked my mom and one uncle that I'm super close to and they both thought my grandparents would love it. Had my grandparents been living and we decided on that date, I definately would have asked them how they felt. I think that PPs are right about asking them if you are unsure.

achiduck

I would ask your grandparents but I'm sure they will be thrilled. A friend of mine did it and her grandmother was over the moon- practically felt like a bride herself.

I also know a woman who's daughter got married on the same day as H and I. It's also the woman's anniversary and her parents anniversary. It's become a family tradition of sorts.

Benny618

BIL did this and surprised his grandparents by having their band learn the song that their grandparents danced to at their own wedding, and they danced to it alone on the dance floor. It was really special.

SmallenForever

Ask. My grandparents would hate it.

Sassenach1743

I think it's a sweet idea and your grandparents will love it. 

We chose our date to honor my maternal grandparent's anniversary in June. They have both passed but I believe they would be happy if they were still here. 

hoffse

Like PPs said, just ask - I think it's a nice idea.  When I was born my parents had a choice of date and chose my paternal grandmother's birthday.  She passed away about 5 years ago, but she always really liked it that we had the same birthday.  It can't hurt to ask.

LizzyRB

Awww I think that's so sweet

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[QUOTE]We're getting married on my fiance's grandparents wedding date, but we didn't know that until after we booked the venue.  His grandfather passed away, but his grandmother is thrilled that we're going to share her anniversary.  We're planning on giving her the bouquet at the reception.
Posted by Ven&Radio[/QUOTE]

<div>Aw, that is so sweet with the bouquet.</div><div>
</div><div>OP, I think i is a nice way to honor your grandparents, but I would ask them just to be safe.</div>

whitney37354

We married on my in-law's anniversary. One of my BM's married on my anniversary. A close friend from church married on our anniversary, but asked my DH if that would bother us. Why should it bother us? We don't own the date & it makes it easier to remember everyone's anniversary.