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    nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    So WHY did you get married (REAL married btw) if you don't think it counts?

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    WildRumpusWildRumpus member
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    Brooke, whatcha drinkin?
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    SparrowSongSparrowSong member
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    If you don't count it and it wasn't a real wedding, why do you use the word husband?

    You sure want to have your cake and eat it too. Sorry toots, it's over. YOU ARE ALREADY MARRIED.
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    brookelynpaisleybrookelynpaisley member
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    Your posts hurt my eyes. You're totally killing my birthday
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-really-sure-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ebffa7d-d10f-44ff-8ee9-35d783c9a772Post:6afb4ca8-3296-4076-af4e-4ab2b84cc3af">Re: not really sure please help!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Brooke, whatcha drinkin?
    Posted by Jill9288[/QUOTE]

    Is it that obvious? Pinot Noir.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-really-sure-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ebffa7d-d10f-44ff-8ee9-35d783c9a772Post:f963e97f-6091-4790-8d96-98f2ad13fc4a">Re: not really sure please help!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: not really sure please help!! : I officially like you.
    Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]
    Thank you, I like you, too!


    I just don't understand why you didn't wait to get married. And I'm having a suspicion this might have gone better for her if she had posted over at the Military Brides section...
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-really-sure-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ebffa7d-d10f-44ff-8ee9-35d783c9a772Post:c4bc9fa2-9805-42f6-897a-29495bd01d9a">Re: not really sure please help!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: not really sure please help!! : Is it that obvious? Pinot Noir.
    Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]

    EDIT: oh, duh. I suggested a drinking game. I was busy googling images of Ava from My Super Sweet Sixteen to go with me "you're killing my birthday."
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    WildRumpusWildRumpus member
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    Pass some please? All we've got in the cabinet is cheap rum and Keystone
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    tidetraveltidetravel member
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    You do know that most insurance companies require you to sign up within 60 days of a qualifying life event, don't you?  So... when you do get around to having your "real wedding," you won't be able to change insurance (health/dental/life) because your marriage certificate will have your "wedding-but-not-really" date on it.  You'll have to wait for open season, which, for some insurances, don't happen at a regular interval.
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    brookelynpaisleybrookelynpaisley member
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    Of course. We got the big bottle. That's how we roll.
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    harmrose02harmrose02
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-really-sure-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ebffa7d-d10f-44ff-8ee9-35d783c9a772Post:1286249d-ec86-480a-bb76-2debf4ab8c60">Re: not really sure please help!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]holy run on sentence. your writing makes me hyperventilate. Posted by SparrowSong[/QUOTE]

    THIS.

    Gaaaaaaa.I guess I'll be the rude one: WTF is she like, 12?

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-really-sure-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ebffa7d-d10f-44ff-8ee9-35d783c9a772Post:9e4ebd04-9d28-4fb2-acd9-26f4adcd8fda">Re: not really sure please help!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: not really sure please help!! : THIS. Gaaaaaaa.I guess I'll be the rude one: WTF is she like, 12?
    Posted by harmrose02[/QUOTE]
    I'VE GOT IT!  The reason for the rushed wedding and the bad spelling.

    Mail order bride.  Has to be.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-really-sure-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ebffa7d-d10f-44ff-8ee9-35d783c9a772Post:b06de952-001e-4159-9822-c1d8614e27cb">Re: not really sure please help!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: not really sure please help!! : EDIT: oh, duh. I suggested a drinking game. I was busy googling images of Ava from My Super Sweet Sixteen to go with me "you're killing my birthday."
    Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]
    Her episode really did have some priceless moments.
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    harmrose02harmrose02
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: not really sure please help!! : I'VE GOT IT!  The reason for the rushed wedding and the bad spelling. Mail order bride.  Has to be.
    Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

    YESSSSS.

    Sorry, I can't come up with anything wittier ATM.

    *brainfart*

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    brookelynpaisleybrookelynpaisley member
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    Ava's my favorite. The pouting, the inappropriate dresses, the whining. I big puffy sparkly heart Ava.
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    nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    Harmrose- we're sharing a brain tonight.

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    harmrose02harmrose02
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-really-sure-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ebffa7d-d10f-44ff-8ee9-35d783c9a772Post:97b0fe52-377b-4568-a1f6-d22ccde03072">Re: not really sure please help!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Harmrose- we're sharing a brain tonight.
    Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

    Too funny.

    I was mid-chew when I read this. Now there's granola all over the place.

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    harmrose02harmrose02
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    Oh no...Roxy.

    *whispering* youknowwho found my SB page


    I'm high-fiving my own face right now.

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    nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    Harm- I was just about to say the same thing....


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    nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    whoa- what happened to her post/ link???

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    didalittlejigdidalittlejig
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    [QUOTE]Oh no...Roxy. *whispering* youknowwho found my SB page
    Posted by harmrose02[/QUOTE]

    <div>he who must not be named?</div>
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    nda_roxybabenda_roxybabe member
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    He? he who?

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    didalittlejigdidalittlejig
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    um Lord Voldemort. 

    ETA: Lke Harry Potter?
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    MichellesinLOVEMichellesinLOVE
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    OH dear Jesus this is the stupid thing I've ever read. (Seriously, sarcasm in that sentence was minimal.. stupidest, or near stupidest.)

    You're married Babycakes, no two ways about it. And forever after, when the government, health insurance, homeowners, etc. etc.wants to know your wedding credentials, you're going to have to go through ^that long winded make-me-hyperventilate explanation again and again.
    And just to be clear, trying to explain to perfect stangers that you live in an illusion where your wedding day was not really your wedding day ( ? boggles my mind, but I digress) makes you sound, to say it most politely, a tad confused.

    Now that this is off my chest, no you can't justify asking for MORE gifts. Did you ever consider that your family asked if you were having a shower just to prepare themselves to spend yet MORE money on yet MORE gifts? More out of trepidation than actual desire to have a shower? That would be my first thoughts in your situation. Having a shower, or allowing anyone to throw one, would look greedy. Not classy. Enjoy your vow renewal.
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    stephaniemarkstephaniemark member
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    I think if your friends and family want to throw you a shower, then they should.
    However, I don't know if registering is appropriate. The people who want to give you a gift will- and the people who don't, shouldn't feel obligated to get you one either.

    I get that you want to have the "real" dress and have the big celebration, and there is nothing wrong with that, but technically it wouldn't be called a wedding.

    Celebrate with friends and family and enjoy yourselves, like I said people who want to bring gifts will, but don't expect them.
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    PharmacyBridePharmacyBride
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    I know it was asked.. but I am just very confused.. WHY DID YOU GO TO A JOP?
    You got married, but didn't seem to want any of the benefits that come along with it.  So why didn't you just push back you wedding date?
    The girls on here were not at all rude in the beginning.. they poked fun at you later.. because you antagonized them... but they gave you very honest opinions.  Not a single person agreed with you- this should tell you something.
    My advice.. invite only CLOSE family/friends.  If you make you invite list too big.. you will get a TON of these comments being said about you by your guests.

    I get you want your big wedding date.  I want it too... I also knew I wanted to marry my FI for 3+ years now.  I waited.. so I get to have all the festivities.  You chose not to wait - there are consequences for that decision.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-really-sure-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ebffa7d-d10f-44ff-8ee9-35d783c9a772Post:1947c035-b493-4f0e-8e0c-4d28b23eec92">Re: not really sure please help!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ava's my favorite. The pouting, the inappropriate dresses, the whining. I big puffy sparkly heart Ava.
    Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]

    I'm a little late, but OMG I LOVE HER.  When she found out that car she just<em> had to have </em>was used and her whole response was "eww." ?  PRICELESS.
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    If I get an invitation to a "wedding" 2 years after the couple already got married, I'd be so confused. "What the? But huh? I thought they were already married?"
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-really-sure-please?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2ebffa7d-d10f-44ff-8ee9-35d783c9a772Post:4ca991bd-2d0c-4399-a69f-8ad179e95474">Re: not really sure please help!!</a>:
    [QUOTE]If I get an invitation to a "wedding" 2 years after the couple already got married, I'd be so confused. "What the? But huh? I thought they were already married?"
    Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

    This, and then I would make fun of them ruthlessly, RSVP no and not send a gift.  Because I probably got a gift already for the REAL WEDDING.
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    rachaelb16rachaelb16 member
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    Like pp's asked....why did you get married?  If you didn't even utilize the benefits what was the point?
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