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FutureMrsDudley55 · April 2010

Morning ladies. How is everyone? I have had a pretty terrible week.. hope things can only go up from here.

caseylynne21 · April 2010

good morning. just got done with work...some girl actually sh%t her pants at the bar, luckily i didnt have to deal with it

aMrsin09 · April 2010

Good Morning. Sorry your week wasn't so great.

Today is kind of low-key, but I have to go meet H's boss's wife this afternoon, so I need still need to go to the grocery store and get ready.

thesuninherhead · April 2010

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[QUOTE]good morning. just got done with work...some girl actually sh%t her pants at the bar, luckily i didnt have to deal with it
Posted by caseylynne21[/QUOTE]
 Ummm wth? and hiya futuremrsd, how are you? What happened during your week to make it so crappy? And on a related note, did you guys not get good friday off work?

aMrsin09 · April 2010

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[QUOTE] And on a related note, did you guys not get good friday off work?
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

Hahahaha...seperation of chuch and state and all that. If you want they day off, they have to give it to you, but you need to use personal vacation time for it.

thesuninherhead · April 2010

Hi aMrs! Didn't see you there when I posted! How are you?

thesuninherhead · April 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Morning =) : Hahahaha...seperation of chuch and state and all that. If you want they day off, they have to give it to you, but you need to use personal vacation time for it.
Posted by aMrsin09[/QUOTE] You guys would get Christmas etc off though, right? Or is it the same thing (presuming the state-church separation is the same there)?

thesuninherhead · April 2010

It's rather odd that I live in a less religious country, yet we have good friday and easter monday as public holidays, whilst you guys in your very Christian society miss out on your four-day weekend! I'm sure you'd have equivalent public holidays during the course of the year, though (hello thanksgiving!), right?

aMrsin09 · April 2010

Funny you say that since I was taking H to task for that the other night.

We do get Christmas off, Gov't offices and Banks are closed, but many, many stores are still open for at least a while in the mornings. I think a lot of it has to do with economy of scale. It costs more to open for the few customers you may get. Plus there are so many people who don't celebrate Christmas, it's also silly to turn away their business.

caseylynne21 · April 2010

it's been one of those weeks, wednesday was caesar chavez day which is a cal state university second version of st.patty's...college bar=drunk idiots...hope everyone had a better week

FutureMrsDudley55 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Morning =) : Ummm wth? and hiya futuremrsd, how are you? What happened during your week to make it so crappy? And on a related note, did you guys not get good friday off work?
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

WARNING! This is about to be very long.

Morning everyone!.. I'm doing ok. My week started off bad because of our venue. In a nutshell, they changed their catering policy, and didn't tell us about it. So we booked a caterer, paid a deposit, and they wouldn't allow us to use them. In the end, we changed venues. It wouldn't have been such a big deal, but they've been awful to work wtih, and we were fed up.

Then.. well I suffer from panic attacks, and I've had one pretty much everyday for the past week. I've even been getting them in my sleep. So now I'm going to go to the doctor about them because I'm almost 99.9% positive that I have panic disorder. Yippee.

Lastly.. last night. Right now, my FI and I live with my parents for the time being, and plan to move out in June. We are living there to save up for the wedding. Well anyways, my nephew (3 years old) is a total terror (for lack of a better word). I love him to death, but he behaves poorly. Anyways, he was over last night, and so was his dad (my brother) because he had just moved back in for a little while. Well I had just gotten out of the shower, and walked out into the kitchen, and the backdoor was standing wide open. So I run outside to find my 3 year old nephew without any shoes, socks or supervision. I tell him to come back inside because he needs his shoes and someone to be out there with him. Then it escalated into this..

Me: Go find your shoes and your dad. Then you can go outside to play.
(Nephew takes off to find them both. Roughly 3 minutes later, he is back at the door trying to open it again to go outside.)
Me: No, you need to be out there with your dad first.
Brother: You need to calm the fuuck down. He can go out there if he wants.
Me: You do realize that he could get hurt right? Or that someone could walk by at any given moment and scoop him up?
Brother: Just mind your own damn business.
Me: Well if you were a better parent, then you would understand why a 3 year old shouldn't be outside by himself! (Maybe over the line, but he had set me off.)
Brother: SHUT THE FUUCK UP, AND MIND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS!
(He then follows my nephew outside and slams the door behind him. I followed him out.)
Me: You will never speak to me like that. I am your sister!
(He then comes at me, wraps him hand around my throat, squeezes it, and forces me back inside. He then draws back as if he is about to hit me, and then slams the door. I reopen it.)
Me: YOU WILL NEVER FUUCKING PUT YOUR HANDS ON ME LIKE THAT AGAIN!
Brother: Why don't you just move out? Nobody wants you here!
Me: Oh that's great, and look at you. 28 years old, and living at home. You're such a damn ingrate.
Brother: Get the fuuck out of my face!

I then shut the door, and walked away. I have never in my life been treated like that or touched like that. I am so distraught about the whole thing. It escalated too far, but I was just looking out for the best interest of his son.

aMrsin09 · April 2010

yeah see I'm enough of a bitch that I would have called the cops on the brother.

While I'm sure he never meant to actually kill you, it might be the wake call that he needs anger management control.

FutureMrsDudley55 · April 2010

I left. My fiance was standing there, and witnessed the whole thing. We stayed over at FMIL's last night. I told my parents that I am not putting up with that, and that he owes me an apology, at least. If not, then I told him to be prepared because I would no longer be speaking to him. But absolutely, he needs anger management. He has been very violent since he was little. He would punch holes in walls, kick in doors..

tiffersk_89 · April 2010

Oh my goodness! That's horrible! I hope he realizes that he really needs to take some anger management classes before he ends up critically hurting anyone.

My week has been up and down... I'm trying to take the good with the bad. I think it's mainly the stress of only having a month and a half to go plus I tend to overreact to things and it stresses me out more. On the bright side, I have a busy/fun-filled family weekend, so it should take my mind off the stress for a while.

tidetravel · April 2010

OMG Duds. If he EVER does ANYTHING like that again you NEED to call the cops. That is uncalled for in ANY situation, but even moreso for someone to do that to their own sister. Is his child safe?

What did your parents do about it? Because if I had a brother and he EVER put his hands on me, my father would have whipped. his. ass. If they ignore you, or try to defend him at all, I would put some serious thought into writing them all off.

And, don't take this the wrong way, but why was FI standing there letting it happen?

FutureMrsDudley55 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]OMG Duds. If he EVER does ANYTHING like that again you NEED to call the cops. That is uncalled for in ANY situation, but even moreso for someone to do that to their own sister. Is his child safe? What did your parents do about it? Because if I had a brother and he EVER put his hands on me, my father would have whipped. his. ass. If they ignore you, or try to defend him at all, I would put some serious thought into writing them all off. And, don't take this the wrong way, but why was FI standing there letting it happen?
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

I was so caught up in the whole situation, I never even considered the idea of calling the cops, honestly. All I knew was that I needed to get out of the house. I hope my nephew is safe. I worry about him.. a lot. My parents both approached him last night and told him to never put his hands on me. He actually got in my mother's face about it. But they stood up for me. They are just hoping this will all blow over and that we both realize how silly it all was. Truth is that I don't find it silly at all. Quite polar opposite actually. I told them that I plan to keep my distance and not speak to him. As for FI, he was just as shocked as I was. He ran over there, and told my brother to keep his hands off of me, and to never touch me again. He told me that I was doing more harm than good by standing there fighting with him, so I shut the door, and we left.

tidetravel · April 2010

That's what I figured. Your FI was probably right - It's good that you got out of there.

You may still be able to file a police report, especially since your FI witnessed the attack. It just happened last night and you could tell the cops that you didn't immediately call because you feared for your safety and wanted to get out immediate danger. They may not be able to do anything about it, but I would still call and see what your options are.

Does your brother keep your nephew full time or is it a visitation deal? Because I'm sure a police report of domestic violence could make the courts question his ability to keep your nephew without supervision.

jajph1974 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good Morning =) : I was so caught up in the whole situation, I never even considered the idea of calling the cops, honestly. All I knew was that I needed to get out of the house. I hope my nephew is safe. I worry about him.. a lot. My parents both approached him last night and told him to never put his hands on me. He actually got in my mother's face about it. But they stood up for me. They are just hoping this will all blow over and that we both realize how silly it all was. Truth is that I don't find it silly at all. Quite polar opposite actually. I told them that I plan to keep my distance and not speak to him. As for FI, he was just as shocked as I was. He ran over there, and told my brother to keep his hands off of me, and to never touch me again. He told me that I was doing more harm than good by standing there fighting with him, so I shut the door, and we left.
Posted by FutureMrsDudley55[/QUOTE]

I'm glad FI stood up for you. What a shiitty thing to happen. If any man, family or not, ever put their hands on me like that I seriously think Tim would beat them to death.

I think the sooner you can get out of there, the better.

FutureMrsDudley55 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]That's what I figured. Your FI was probably right - It's good that you got out of there. You may still be able to file a police report, especially since your FI witnessed the attack. It just happened last night and you could tell the cops that you didn't immediately call because you feared for your safety and wanted to get out immediate danger. They may not be able to do anything about it, but I would still call and see what your options are. Does your brother keep your nephew full time or is it a visitation deal? Because I'm sure a police report of domestic violence could make the courts question his ability to keep your nephew without supervision.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

It is a visitation deal. He gets him every other weekend. I'm going to have to talk to my FI and my parents some more. I'm just so upset and confused. I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack any moment. My panic attacks are getting worse with the wedding approaching. And mine are awful. They hit me while I'm at work, in my sleep, while I'm driving, in class.. no warning at all. Sometimes I can feel them coming on. But what makes them so bad is that I can't remember what happened, what I did, or what I said to anyone.

jajph1974 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]That's what I figured. Your FI was probably right - It's good that you got out of there. You may still be able to file a police report, especially since your FI witnessed the attack. It just happened last night and you could tell the cops that you didn't immediately call because you feared for your safety and wanted to get out immediate danger. They may not be able to do anything about it, but I would still call and see what your options are. Does your brother keep your nephew full time or is it a visitation deal? Because I'm sure a police report of domestic violence could make the courts question his ability to keep your nephew without supervision.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

... and this.

Stackeye210 · April 2010

Sorry you had a crappy week duds! Scary stuff - all of it.

Good morning everyone. I'm finally getting my hair done today. Thank GOODNESS. I'm way overdue.

lyndausvi · April 2010

Morning.

It's going to be a crazy day. Our boat is still out of commission, but *might* be working for the sunset. I'm working the half day on another boat (nice boat, but not as nice as ours), then I may or may not work the sunset depending on what boat we use. basically I'm in a holding pattern all day.

FutureMrsDudley55 · April 2010

Morning Lynda. Morning Stacks, how are you getting your hair done today?

sarabellam · April 2010

Morning, ladies! Duds, you definitely need to at least try to file a police report. If you've got a digital camera, you need to get pictures yourself. And maybe send them to your nephew's mother and her attorney. Your parents are dead wrong; this is NOT silly, and you don't need to just forget about it.

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