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bonge

I am not dd, i got my answer & took out the post because i did not want anyone finding it.

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RebeccaB88

I'd say they can figure out their own transportation. Rent a car, take a cab, take the bus, call a friend...

bonge

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gas-money?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:34082724-3d46-4f25-80eb-842954518e7aPost:05c75bc4-28e5-4b39-ba33-a2095626b82f">Re: Gas money?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd say they can figure out their own transportation. Rent a car, take a cab, take the bus, call a friend...
Posted by RebeccaB88[/QUOTE]

<div>Unfortunately not my nature, i take care of ppl. It is what i do. She has no license either. </div>

Kate61487

I'd never be comfortable asking someone for gas money if I offered to pick them up from the airport; I feel like it sort of comes with the territory of offering to drive someone, but maybe that's just me.  If she offered that would be nice.

But like PP said you're under no obligation to provide transportation, tell them they're on their own.  If they complain about the cost then maybe you could mention the cost of gas and see if they offer. 

I am curious how/why your BF paid for the gas twice - if he'd already filled up their car he would know that paying again was a total ripoff, so why did he agree?  Also, why do you need to pay for parking?  You just pull up and they get in, no?

RebeccaB88

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gas money? : Unfortunately not my nature, i take care of ppl. It is what i do. She has no license either. 
Posted by bonge[/QUOTE]

That's fine.  Then stop complaining about the cost if you're just going to do it anyway. 

And she can still take a cab or the bus if she doesn't have a license.

bonge

Edited for personal info

I am not complaining. I am asking if i can ask for gas money. 

 

aurianna

Say, "It looks like I'll be busy with some wedding things. This is our address and this is the number of a cab company you can call as soon as you land if you're not comfortable with the ones available at the airport. Can't wait to see you! Thanks!"

EDIT:
If she's old enough to get married, then she's old enough to get a cab.

EDIT again:
Not sure where you live, but in some places, limo services are cheaper than cab fair (at least that's what my dad said in Chicago a few years back). Check the rates (see, you're taking care of her!) and you could give her that number instead if they're decent.

Summer2011Bride

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[QUOTE]I didn't offer. <strong> She said this is when i come in, who is picking me up, </strong>i said i guess i have to as my bro's car is broken & my dad is out of town. I can't leave her there stranded. She wouldn't take a bus after the beheading here a few years ago.  Nope we have to park in order to get her.  I am not complaining. I am asking if i can ask for gas money.  As for him paying twice he had no choice, she put the charge on my mom's account which had to be paid. He did not know about it till after he filled up the car, then they told him he had to pay the charge as well. If he didn't my mom would have been stuck with it. 
Posted by bonge[/QUOTE]

How old is she? Why can't she figure out her own transportation instead of assuming someone will be at her beck and call when she gets in? if it was me and especially knowing the history with her, I would say, "Sorry, it looks like no one will be available. Here is the name of a reliable cab company."

Besides that, at most airports there will be cabs lined up ready and waiting for passengers, so she could probably just climb in and go. It really just seems like she's using people so she doesn't have to spend any money on transportation.

bonge

If you quoted me & come back can you delete the quote plz

JoanE2012

If your sister can flat out ask for a ride, why can't you ask her to help with gas money?  I don't understand.  She's your sister, not some casual acquaintance.  Do you have any sort of relationship with her where you can talk about these things??

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]Really dot? So i can ask someone for a ride but not give them any money for gas anytime i want because it is rude of them to ask me for money to help out?
Posted by bonge[/QUOTE]

It is rude to ask for money in exchange for doing a friend/family member a favor, yes.  It is also rude of your sister to be a perpetual mooch.  But we're not going to recommend you meet rudeness with rudeness.

I've never offered a family member gas money.  It's never even occured to me.  But perhaps that's because I'm not intentionally mooching off of them and would return the favor without hesitation.  When you find yourself in a situation where you're being used then remove yourself from that situation and stop letting her walk all over you.

mizutamababy

OK sorry but....

How the hells are ya'll affording a wedding if you cannot spare gas money for a trip to the airport and back?!  Gas is like, what?  $4 a gallon in the U.S. right now? (Compared with the $9 a gallon it costs right now in Japan and varying prices near that for the rest of the world.)

It sounds like more than the money itself, you got burned by your sister once before on gas money and now don't want to pay for her because she didn't extend the same courtesy to your b/f (now FI?) before.  Which is reasonable enough but if that's the case let her find her own transport if she's too much of a mooch to offer to pay for gas and don't worry about it.  What goes around, comes around as it may.

All in all it sounds a little petty, just saying.  Sure nobody wants to spend gas money on just anybody, but this is your sister.  I'm sure she spend more than a tank of gas costs to fly out to your wedding.  However, if she has caused many money grievances in her family, don't feel sorry for not bowing down to her needs.  The reality check will do her good.

bonge

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[QUOTE]OK sorry but.... How the hells are ya'll affording a wedding if you cannot spare gas money for a trip to the airport and back?!  Gas is like, what?  $4 a gallon in the U.S. right now? (Compared with the $9 a gallon it costs right now in Japan and varying prices near that for the rest of the world.) It sounds like more than the money itself, you got burned by your sister once before on gas money and now don't want to pay for her because she didn't extend the same courtesy to your b/f (now FI?) before.  Which is reasonable enough but if that's the case let her find her own transport if she's too much of a mooch to offer to pay for gas and don't worry about it.  What goes around, comes around as it may. All in all it sounds a little petty, just saying.  Sure nobody wants to spend gas money on just anybody, but this is your sister.  I'm sure she spend more than a tank of gas costs to fly out to your wedding.  However, if she has caused many money grievances in her family, don't feel sorry for not bowing down to her needs.  The reality check will do her good.
Posted by mizutamababy[/QUOTE]



i cant quote stupid tk. Anyways seriously? You don't have to agree with me, that is perfectly alright on a site like this but i find the line of how can you afford a wedding if you can't afford a tank of gas pretty silly. That is EXACTLY why i can't afford the gas for a 3 hr return trip twice. I am paying for the wedding & it is also out of town so it is going to cost me hundreds of dollars in gas as it is. It is 1.22 a litre here & at least $25 each time, that may not seem like much to you but with everything else for me it is.

You also assumed she paid a lot to come. No she didn't, my mom used her air miles, so ty but she hasn't paid very much anyways but that wouldn't make a difference.

I will give the shirt off my back for ppl & most in my circle will, her using me in the past really didn't have much to do with it except to point out the using for gas. I am not going to stoop to that, like i said only mentioned it because it was gas, she has done worse. Doesn't matter, because it has nothing to do with it.
Moot point my mom had already spoke to her before i even asked my mom how to proceed.

mizutamababy

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gas money? : i cant quote stupid tk. Anyways seriously? You don't have to agree with me, that is perfectly alright on a site like this but i find the line of how can you afford a wedding if you can't afford a tank of gas pretty silly. That is EXACTLY why i can't afford the gas for a 3 hr return trip twice. I am paying for the wedding & it is also out of town so it is going to cost me hundreds of dollars in gas as it is. It is 1.22 a litre here & at least $25 each time, that may not seem like much to you but with everything else for me it is. You also assumed she paid a lot to come. No she didn't, my mom used her air miles, so ty but she hasn't paid very much anyways but that wouldn't make a difference. I will give the shirt off my back for ppl & most in my circle will, her using me in the past really didn't have much to do with it except to point out the using for gas. I am not going to stoop to that, like i said only mentioned it because it was gas, she has done worse. Doesn't matter, because it has nothing to do with it. Moot point my mom had already spoke to her before i even asked my mom how to proceed.
Posted by bonge[/QUOTE]

Honestly I do find it weird you do not have an extra $50 laying around just in case something goes wrong and that's not even related to gas.  Why?  Because there's a multitude of things on your wedding day that could happen and cost you a little extra.  How would you deal with this?  Sounds like you're cutting it awfully close.

At my wedding one of the guests didn't make it to the limo due to a mistake on the part of the person in charge of making sure everyone got in while we were on our pre-reception photoshoot.  Glad we had some extra money to compsensate the cab fare!  Or, the person who was supposed give my DH a free style on the day of with his shave appt flaked on the styling part and we ended up having to squeeze him in with the H/MU artist us girls were using.  Cost us an extra $50, though.  And that's nothing compared to some of the doozies that have come up on my local board.

I don't think anyone was being mean, but you have two options:  Either suck it up and pay for your sister or let her come up with her own money/transportation.  I'm sorry if that isn't what you wanted to hear, but that's about all there is you can do.   It sounds like from your update your mom stepped in and your sister might be taking the latter option in either ponying up her own gas money if she rides with you or finding her own transport.

But you're right, it isn't my business besides the fact you posted here.  I'm also sorry to have assumed your sister paid for her flight.  Either way, she is taking time to come out for you.  I do hope your day goes 100% as planned/budgeted so that you're not strapped for cash and that everyone has a good time.