I don't mean to sound insensitive in saying jobs. I don't see them as working in the wedding. I had a friend who I wanted to include in the WP but decided not to. She's applying to several police departments, some of them very far away, and I didn't want her to stress about taking time off as she would be probationary/in training/etc which is frowned upon in our line of work. I also didn't want her to feel "odd woman out" as she's lesbian and pretty masculine, may not feel comfortable in a suit and definitely wouldn't feel right in a dress. I just wanted to make sure she was comfortable. I'm having a thumbprint tree guest book and thought it would be a nice way to have her participate, plus she and her wife could do it together. Someone below in the "my friend isn't in the WP" post made mention of friends getting crappy jobs in the wedding. Is that the general sentiment? That people who are asked to participate in other ways are considered second rate? I definitely don't want her to feel bad or that she's any less important to me, I just wanted to be considerate of her comfort zone.
