How to announce to coworkers?

*tinkertoy*

My fiance has not told a lot of people at work about the wedding and tonight he tells me he wants to send an email announcement. We leave on Wed for the wedding and I'm not sure if now is the time? 

Thoughts?

If we do send it now, what should we say?

Simply Fated

I'm not sure why he feels the need to make an announcement about it, but maybe I'm missing something.

kellyjellybelly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_announce-coworkers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:35657919-a553-4e7e-b3ed-25dd0c439468Post:4fef0f30-5f9e-4956-aea4-6b6fcc06a4aa">Re: How to announce to coworkers?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm not sure why he feels the need to make an announcement about it, but maybe I'm missing something.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

Yeah, what she said. 

*tinkertoy*

Me either. If he didn't mention it by now I don't really see why he needs to days before. He says he just thinks he should.

*shrug*

kellyjellybelly

I don't have much advice, I work with about 75 women - any little information about anyone's life is spread through that place in 0.083 seconds.

GeauxTigers17

I'm with the others...I don't think he should send anything at all. 

marinabreeze

I don't think anything should be sent to them.  It's not like they're invited.

brilibby4

I feel like it would be weird to receive an email announcing a coworkers wedding.  I would just let them find out on their own if it doesn't come up in conversation.  An announcement isn't really necessary.

*tinkertoy*

Thanks ladies!

shortee426

It sounds like he is taking some time off work for the wedding,  yes?  When asked by co-workers where he's going, he can tell them he's going to get married.  The word will spread.

mica178

In my workplace, we only find out about marriages after the person comes back from the honeymoon and thanks the coworkers in a group email for covering for him/her during the wedding/honeymoon.  (I'm referring to coworkers with whom I'm not in regular contact, obviously I think my closer coworkers would tell me in person around the time of engagement.)

*tinkertoy*

Well, we are both in academics so no one would really know if he were gone or not- could just be traveling or working from home, you know? We also have about 3 weeks off at the Holiday time so people might not know.

He's just being strange about it. I guess his coworker friend has him when he was going to announce it and now he thinks he needs to.

tidetravel

If anything, announcements are made after the wedding, not before.  And really, how much of an attention whore do you have to be to send a mass email to people that you obviously don't talk to on a regular basis, saying, "Just so you don't wonder where I am over the next couple of days/weeks, I'm off to get married!"

*tinkertoy*

He is the furthest thing from an 'attention whore', it was suggested by a co-worker and he didn't want to make a misstep by not announcing it.

Thanks everyone for the input.

Simply Fated

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_announce-coworkers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:35657919-a553-4e7e-b3ed-25dd0c439468Post:bb302361-f7f2-44b5-b362-c8ed9999dc31">Re: How to announce to coworkers?</a>:
[QUOTE]Well, we are both in academics so no one would really know if he were gone or not- could just be traveling or working from home, you know? We also have about 3 weeks off at the Holiday time so people might not know. He's just being strange about it. I guess his coworker friend has him when he was going to announce it and now he thinks he needs to.
Posted by *tinkertoy*[/QUOTE]

If they don't even know he's going to be gone or not, then they aren't going to care why he's gone.... Especially since there is a chance they won't even know he <em>is</em> gone. And if they don't know by now that you are going to be married, then they probably aren't important enough to announce it to, anyway. And I don't mean that in a nasty way.

Making announcements like that, before the wedding, to people you aren't inviting to the wedding rubs me the wrong way, anyway.

There is no good way to go about announcing this, so I have no more advice other than please try to talk him out of it. You can always send him here and we can talk to him. :)

mica178

When I was in academics, personal news passed via gossip/word of mouth.  I think most of my colleagues would have considered it unprofessional to send out a wedding announcement email.

*tinkertoy*

I've convinced him to not send anything. 

thanks!

Summer2011Bride

My boss found out I was engaged and in her morning memo to all of us at work, she mentioned a congrats on my engagement. That's how my co-workers found out; I would not have told them otherwise (only a few who I hang out with socially). If he is close to a couple and mentions it to them, odds are they'll spread the news. Otherwise, I don't see the need to announce it.

jemmini6

I think it's odd to send an engagement or wedding announcement to people you work with that wouldn't find out via word of mouth.  I actually had one of our manufacturer's CS reps send out a mass email to everyone saying that they were going to be gone because they were getting married.  While I understand letting people know that they won't be in the office and giving an alternate contact for the time you are gone, I didn't think the 'reason' was necessary.

I don't understand why people think that getting married is some earth-stopping moment for everyone like they are accomplishing some superhuman feat that everyone should be impressed by (not directed at you OP, just in general).  People who don't know you don't care, thousands of people get married every day.  And even people who do know you probably don't really care that much.  As the saying goes, 'no one will be as excited about your wedding as you are'.