adult reception

gizget75

Wanted to check the appropriate way to make sure the guests know that it is an adult reception only. My wedding and reception will be in the same location one right after the other.  Is it appropriate to write adult reception only on the rsvp card as a reminder.

raes19

Only address your invitations to adults. Most people can figure out that only those named on the invitations are the ones invited. If someone RSVPs for children, you will have to contact them and let them know that you cannot accommodate any extra guests.

chelseamb11

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_adult-reception-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:37a7a850-f291-43f0-a1fd-fa5b7a3781e5Post:086a01f2-c6a8-4888-a73d-8a9c00dee361">Re: adult reception</a>:
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Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

FTFY ;)

rebarobert2012

If you are going to have an adults only reception, then the ceremony must be adults only as well.  Because everyone invited to the ceremony must also be invited to the reception. 

So if you invite kids to your ceremony, it would be rude to leave them out of the reception.  It's one thing if their parents decide not to bring them to the reception, but it would be rude to say, "Your children are invited to the ceremony, but they are not welcome at the reception."

goobersinlove

The only appropriate way is to address the invites to Mr. & Mrs. John Smith only and make no mention of children anywhere.  It is absolutely NOT appropriate to write "adults only" "no children please" or any other verbage that otherwise conveys "leave your snotty brats at home" on any part of the invitation or response card.

However, the way you CAN kind of idiot-proof this on the response card is have it say something along the lines of "We have reserved X seats in your honor." That way it makes it clear that 2 people - not 3, 4 or 5 - are invited without being rude.  This is what we plan to do because we do not want children at our wedding.

However, some people may completely ignore this and ask if they can bring their kids, at which point you will need to make an awkward phone call and kindly explain that you are having an adults-only wedding.

banana468

Reserving X seats doesn't really idiot proof your invitation.  Then it opens the door for a mom to substitute her 8 yo for her hubby who will be out of town on the wedding day.