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Flower Girl

I am not one for traditions, but I want a big tradition wedding. Oxymoron I know! However I do not have a flower girl to ask. There are only boys around that are younger. I was thinking of having by nephews just walk before me and throw the petals out. Would it be okay to do this and fore go the flower girl all together? Your thoughts will be appreciated.

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  • A boy is not going to want to throw petals down an aisle. If you don't have anyone to ask, you just don't have one.
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  • Yeah. I think if they are really young, like 4, they'll do whatever they can to be messy, haha, but if they are a little older, they gould be emparrassed by the flowers. They could carry something else, like a book, or something. Maybe a lantern. I don't know what else, but there are some ideas.
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  • TiffannieFTiffannieF member
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    I wouldn't ask the boys to throw flowers that might haunt them for the rest of their life (AW I remember when you were a flower boy at auntie's wedding...). You dont have to have kids in your wedding, your WP should be with people that are close to you not because they are appropriate age. If you have any preteens or young teen girls that you are close to you can have them as junior bridesmaids and toss petals. The little boys can be junior groomsmen...GL
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  • I agree with TiffannieF that this is something that even if the boys are willing to do now, they will wish they hadn't done due to the teasing later. 

    Since you don't have any young girls you are close with, I would say that you should not have a flower girl, or boy, or dog, or llama, or whatevery else you could think of. On the bright side, flower girls =/= traditional wedding. You can still have a very traditional wedding without a flower girl. I'm sure none of your guests will even notice that you don't have one. HTH!
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  • RaptorSLHRaptorSLH member
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    One wedding I went to had a little boy passing out the rice packets to throw.  He was adorable (partly because he'd learned what outrageous thing to say to get attention, but I digress).

    You don't need a flower girl at all, if you don't want one.  None of the last four weddings I went to had one, and all were fairly traditional in form.
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  • I'm having a traditional church ceremony, but don't have any child attendants.  My youngest nephew is too old to be a ring bearer (he'll turn 10 two days before the wedding), and I don't know any little girls.  Truthfully, when our pastor and photographer found out, they were both so happy.  The response was something along the lines of "Kids steal the show - either with laughter or hystercal tears"
  • No self respecting boy in the world, over the age of one, would do this voluntarily. 

    Don't do it
  • No. Don't have little boys acting as your flower girl.  Besides, their parents may not be too thrilled about this.
  • While most boys wouldn't be up for tossing flowers, there are some who love the idea of throwing pretty much anything.  Years ago I went to a wedding where the brides nephew (4ish?) asked to be the flower boy.  She used a top hat rather than a basket and he was really cute.

    I'd consider listing the boys in the program as simply "child attendants" and then being prepared for them to do whatever, carry rings, toss flowers (leaves, confetti, etc), just walk down the aisle. 
  • While I think a young boy will throw just about anything you give them, you could also consider having one or two of them walk down the aisle in front of you carrying something like this:

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_flower-girl-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:38cf1ed4-d72f-4246-a050-6c250886c03bPost:90099070-35a7-4d33-965a-f1e78055033d">Re: Flower Girl</a>:
    [QUOTE]While I think a young boy will throw just about anything you give them, you could also consider having one or two of them walk down the aisle in front of you carrying something like this:
    Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

    That is really cute!
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  • Yeah, not big on the flower boy idea.  Even if the boy thought it was cool at first, someone is going to say something around him about how it is a "girl's job."  No need to have anything dropped down the aisle.
  • [QUOTE]No self respecting boy in the world, over the age of one, would do this voluntarily.  Don't do it
    Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]

    <div>Sexist much?  I was a girl ring bearer, and I've know boys that would ham it up and love it.  I'd be more worried about someone making them feel bad for doing a "girl's job" then with the job itself.</div>
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  • Okay

    It's a girl's job as most of the other posters stated.

    Don't make a little boy do it.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_flower-girl-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:38cf1ed4-d72f-4246-a050-6c250886c03bPost:90099070-35a7-4d33-965a-f1e78055033d">Re: Flower Girl</a>:
    [QUOTE]While I think a young boy will throw just about anything you give them, you could also consider having one or two of them walk down the aisle in front of you carrying something like this:
    Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

    That is adorable!
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