Hi- My mom and MOH are planning my shower, which I am very grateful for. A few years ago when I was in graduate school I was a nanny for a family. I am inviting the parents in that family to my wedding, I am not inviting their children. We are only having wedding party children at the wedding. My mom saw the woman of this family out and about the other day, mentioned the shower and I guess they got into a conversation about the shower, the wedding and the girls I used to nanny for. My mom thinks it would be ok to invite the little girls to the shower but not to the wedding. What do you guys think? At the shower there will be 4 little girls there but they are all in the wedding therefore invited to the wedding. These other little girls are not invited to the wedding. Their mom is well aware that her children are not invited to the wedding bc my mom said she made a comment about having a fun night out at the wedding "sans children". My mom thinks having the girls at the shower would be fun since they mean so much to me. What do you ladies think? I know typically if you do not invite someone to the wedding they are not invited to the shower but obviously these girls aren't bringing me any gifts and may not even really know that I'm having a wedding/fully understand the concept. Obviously if I could I would invite these girls to the wedding, I love them but if I do that all my cousins will expect their kids to be invited and so on, you get the idea. Thanks.