Lets talk about weddings....

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Ok, I stole this from TN. I have changed a few things. So tell me:

How long have you been married?

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?

Did you accessorize with anything fun?

LD1970

Prospectively...

How long have you been married? N/A

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories? Yes dress/No accessories

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? No

If so, who paid for it? N/A

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? No

Did you wear gloves? No

Did you accessorize with anything fun? Nothing unusual.

laurenclaire1386

I'm not married, but I'm playing anyway.

How long have you been married?
I'm 5 weeks out from the wedding.
Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?
They're all wearing the same dress, but I haven't bought them any jewelry, and don't plan to. But I am getting them cute little hair thingies.
Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?
MOH is doing an updo, and I don't know what anyone else is doing. They're free to do their own hair and makeup, or use my person. If they use my person, it'll be their choice, so they'd pay for it.
Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?
Nope. But I am wearing gloves.
Did you accessorize with anything fun?
A hat! It's awesome.

moosebaby2011

How long have you been married? 4 months

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories? Dress yes, accessories no

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? No
If so, who paid for it? Getting pro hair/make up was optional.  All my girls elected to have their hair done, but not make up, and paid for it themselves.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? No Did you wear gloves? No

Did you accessorize with anything fun?  I painted my toenails bright blue.  Does that count?

ETA:  I should also add that my jewelry was made for me by my older sister, and I borrowed my veil from my younger sister.  My MIL made the blusher for the veil, and I also carried a handkerchief that belonged to my great grandmother. 

Stackeye210

How long have you been married?   a year and a half

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?  They were the same dress but not the same accessories

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?  They did their hair and make up however they wanted

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?  I didn't have sleeves, but it wasn't strapless.  No gloves

Did you accessorize with anything fun?  100k pair of earrings.  It was my something borrowed that my moms best friend surprised me with to wear on my wedding day.  They were her moms and she got them out of her safety deposit box just for me.  They were GORGEOUS. 

crfische

How long have you been married? Umm...2 years and 5 months.

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories? They sure did. Looked pretty, too.

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? Nope! I didn't care how they wore their hair.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves? No and hell no.

Did you accessorize with anything fun? Uhhh...Landshark and cigars?

akhensley81

How long have you been married?
1 month & 13 days.

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?
Yup. They got their dresses, I got them their shoes. Their necklaces were a last minute idea.. like a Thursday-night-before-the-wedding-Walmart-run kind of idea. Hehe. So I gave those to them too.

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?
They all paid for their own hair, and had it done however they wanted. They all had the option of doing it themselves, but they all went with my hair salon anyway.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?
No sleeves, no gloves.

Did you accessorize with anything fun?
My accessories were my something old (diamond necklace that belonged to my great grandmother), something new (shoes that my aunt bought & decorated for me), something borrowed (headband & earrings), and something blue (garter).

NIKIKRUISE

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[QUOTE]How long have you been married?   a year and a half Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?  They were the same dress but not the same accessories Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?  They did their hair and make up however they wanted Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?  I didn't have sleeves, but it wasn't strapless.  No gloves Did you accessorize with anything fun?  <strong>100k pair of earrings.  It was my something borrowed that my moms best friend surprised me with to wear on my wedding day.  They were her moms and she got them out of her safety deposit box just for me.  They were GORGEOUS. 
</strong>Posted by Stackeye210[/QUOTE]


I need pictures. I like sparkly :)

cengle

How long have you been married?
About 10 months

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?
Same dress, yes, but not the same accessories.

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?
I *think* they all did their hair up. 3 out of the 4 went with me to the salon (they paid, because I told them they could do what they wanted) and my SIL did her own.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?
No sleeves and no gloves

Did you accessorize with anything fun?
It was December and very cold, so I got one of those fake fur wrap things, and I bought a sparkly snowflake brooch to pin it together.  (I have on my wrap in my sig pic)

cengle

Oh! And I wore my mom's veil, so I think that's a neat accessory too.  It meant a lot to her, even though she said I should get something new and fancier, but I loved it and I got a lot of compliments on it. 

eMiLee920

How long have you been married? 2 weeks

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories? Dresses, yes.  Accessories, no.

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it? They didn't have to and they each picked their style.  I paid for them.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves? No sleeves, no gloves.

Did you accessorize with anything fun? I wore red shoes, and a red pearl bracelet/earring set.

akhensley81

OH - on the subject of my accessories. I just thought of something I don't think I told you girls. My florist somehow heard about the camo thing (probably through my mom), and managed to get a sample of the camo fabric we were using for the groomsmens' pocket squares. Again, probably my mom's doing.

I noticed just as we were getting ready to walk down the aisle that she had incorporated a little bit of the camo fabric in to my bouqets' wrap. It was really cute. So I had camo too.

missy68

How long have you been married?
2 weeks from 13 months.
Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?
Didn't have any.
Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?
See above. And I did my own hair and makeup.
Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?
No and no. The dress came with a sort of bolero jacket that matched the waistband color - I wore it to dinner.
Did you accessorize with anything fun?
I wore a blusher back as a veil, a comb, pearl earrings and a necklace my dad brought back from China, and J's grandmother's diamond ring.  My bouquet had several small trinkets in it - from my grandmothers, representing them and my deceased grandfathers; my great-aunt's handkerchief, and J's mom's mothers' ring (she's deceased).

LDYGTR13

How long have you been married? Getting married in less than 2 weeks! ACK!
Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories? The non-pregnant BM's all have the same dress - though some of them have added straps. The pregnant one has a similar dress in a maternity style. They all have their own accessories, but I'm giving them a necklace that they can wear if they'd like - I think they all have their own picked out though.
Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it? Nope, they can do as they please! My boss is doing our hair, she's just going to make them pretty. We're going to get her a "THANK YOU!!!" gift.
Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Nopers. I wish it had straps though.
Did you wear gloves? Definitely not. Yuck. (This makes me think of Barbie kitchen girl)
Did you accessorize with anything fun? I'm wearing my favorite style of panties (they're Jockey ultimates boyshorts...seriously...GET SOME. They go on clearance at Belk all the time. I have all of my BM's and even my boss HOOKED on them, they cup your butt!) and they've got blue lines on them. I'm thinking of having them monogrammed.

bellebride116

How long have you been married? Going on 9 months! 

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories? Yup! 

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it? No, they were able to do their hair/makeup however they wanted.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves? My ceremony dress had cap sleeves, my reception dress was strapless. No gloves. 

Did you accessorize with anything fun? Nope, just the usual jewelry and such. 

laurenclaire1386

Guys, I swear the right gloves worn the right way aren't as bad as you think.

squirrly

How long have you been married?  5 months, 3 days. 

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?  Nope.  Different dresses, different shoes.  I gave them matching jewelry, which they could wear or not - I just thought it was cute and that they might like it - but I think they all did wear it. 

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?  I paid, but gave no input into style.  They did whatever they wanted!

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?  No and no.  Strapless.

Did you accessorize with anything fun?  I dyed my shoes watermelon pink.  And I had flowers in my hair. 

LD1970

I think it's interesting that for all the people here who've espoused the virtues of letting the bridesmaids all pick out different dresses, most of the ones who've answered had their bridemsaids all in the same dress.

emilyinchile

How long have you been married? 7 months

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories? Same dress, different shoes and accessories

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it? Nope, they all ended up just straightening and wearing their hair down.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves? No and no.

Did you accessorize with anything fun? I think my shoes (avatar) were pretty fun, and I loved my veil. Other than that, just pearl earrings and necklace which while pretty aren't necessarily "fun."

[Deleted User]

How long have you been married?
6 months almost to the day (yesterday would have been 6 months)

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?
I only had a MOH, she chose her own dress

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?
She did her own hair (just straightened it) and my SIL did our makeup for free.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?
No, I had a strapless dress. No gloves.

Did you accessorize with anything fun?
I did add a sparkly pin to my dress, in the shape of a leaf (H is a landscaper so it was for him) with little fake diamond things hanging from it. It was small, but added a nice finishing touch to the dress.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]I think it's interesting that for all the people here who've espoused the virtues of letting the bridesmaids all pick out different dresses, most of the ones who've answered had their bridemsaids all in the same dress.
Posted by LD1970[/QUOTE]
It's pretty hard to MAKE someone have an opinion on the BM dress. Unless you hang out on wedding boards, I don't think many people know they should have a choice for their dress. I gave all my BMs the option to pick whatever they wanted and they insisted I pick. So I did.

LD1970

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lets talk about weddings.... : It's pretty hard to MAKE someone have an opinion on the BM dress. Unless you hang out on wedding boards, I don't think many people know they should have a choice for their dress. I gave all my BMs the option to pick whatever they wanted and they insisted I pick. So I did.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]
That makes sense.  Note:  I wasn't saying it was good or bad, just interesting.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lets talk about weddings.... : That makes sense.  Note:  I wasn't saying it was good or bad, just interesting.
Posted by LD1970[/QUOTE]
I just figured the implication was that people were spouting off one thing, and doing another, and I don't think that's the case for most of these people.

emilyinchile

LD, I see that often when someone says "my BMs are arguing over the dress, what should I do?" the answer is "let them each pick a different style of dress" because it's not necessarily worth having WWIII over a dress. But I think like LC said, a lot of people are happy to have the bride pick the dress (or to at least agree among themselves on one dress, which is what my friends did) because that's what they're used to seeing and what they expect will be asked of them.

kd.joseph

How long have you been married? About 6 months.

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories? Only had a MOH.

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way?Yes If so, who paid for it? My DH and I paid for her hair and make-up, it was a surprise.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves?No Did you wear gloves? No

Did you accessorize with anything fun? My hair fascinator

cengle

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lets talk about weddings.... : It's pretty hard to MAKE someone have an opinion on the BM dress. Unless you hang out on wedding boards, I don't think many people know they should have a choice for their dress. <strong>I gave all my BMs the option to pick whatever they wanted and they insisted I pick. So I did.</strong>
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

Yup, me too.  They wanted me to decide. Well, except for one, who was a PITA throughout the whole ordeal, and wouldn't have been happy in any dress.  She wanted me to pick her dress, but complained anyway.  Oh well. 

LD1970

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lets talk about weddings.... : I just figured the implication was that people were spouting off one thing, and doing another, and I don't think that's the case for most of these people.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]
Nah, just something I noticed.<div>
</div><div>I actually like the look of diff dresses myself even though all of mine are in one dress.  Well, each in the same dress but their own... they wouldn't all fit in one single dress.</div><div>
</div><div>I went to the store intending to do coordinating separates and came out with a single dress for them.  Go figure.</div>

[Deleted User]

How long have you been married?
A year and a day!

Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?
Nope, they picked the dress and accessorized themselves.

Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?
No, they did whatever they wanted.

Did your wedding dress have sleeves? Did you wear gloves?
No, and no

Did you accessorize with anything fun?
Nothing that was "trendy" fun, but I wore earrings that both my grandma and mom wore on their wedding day.

LD1970

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Lets talk about weddings.... : What drives me crazy is all of my BMs did pick out different dresses but they all dragged their feet for 6 months and didn't order them and every dress went out of stock. So I dragged them all into DB and told them to pick a dress. Ironically, they all picked the same one and it was one of the few that would come in on time. I guess I could have saved myself some headaches and just did that from the beginning.
Posted by lovethebeach16[/QUOTE]
It absolutely blows my mind how many PITA bridesmaids people have.

emilyann21

How long have you been married?
16 days
Did your BM's all wear the same dress and accessories?
same dress but each had a different necklace that matched their personality
Did your BM's have their hair/make-up done a certain way? If so, who paid for it?
Nope, as long as it didn't look like they crawled out of bed, I didn't care. All but one had their hair done at my salon and that had a friend do it for her. Everyone did their own make-up
Did your wedding dress have sleeves?
nope
Did you wear gloves?
nope
Did you accessorize with anything fun?
just my something old, new, borrowed, blue

squirrly

For mine, there was a dress I liked, but none of them liked it much, really, and I wasn't really that particular about it.  So, they tried on a ton, until we found a designer they all liked something from, and I picked a fabric & a color.  They could choose anything that came in that fabric, so long as it was in watermelon pink.  And, I gave them the chance to veto the pink, but they were all cool with it. 

They had SUCH different body shapes, there's really no way I could have found a universally flattering dress.  I love the three of them much more than any old dress, anyway, so I thought it was better that way.  I don't think matching dresses are bad, inherently, if everybody agrees, but I don't think they're required, either.