Inviting people from work? Mainly Bosses?

KMHixon

So my fiance and I are working on getting our guest list finalized. Whats the etiquette for inviting people from work? I'm a teacher with less than 30 coworkers and my fiance works at a small credit union with less than 15 coworkers. We also aren't sure about inviting our bosses. Are you suppose to?

Thanks for your help!
Kendra

June 23, 2012!!

melntaitt

My fiance and I work for the same coorporation in different departments so we just chose the closest people to us and invited them; we didn't invite everyone there and we invited our director but none of the managers.

We were friends with our director before she became the director so it was a no-brainer.

Oh and do yourself a favor; mail the save-the-date and invitations. Do not take them in and distribute them...

Loopyseven

H invited about 6 of his co-workers and their spouses (out of about 80 who work for the companY) and I didn't invite any of my co-workers.  You are not obligated to invite any coworkers.  If you do decide to invite some of them, send the invitations to their homes and keep the wedding talk at work to a mnimum so others don't feel left out, or like you're rubbing it in their faces.  

smartlypretty

I would only invite people from work if you see them socially outside of work.

classykat22

I struggled with this because I work in a small office and feel close enough to most of my co-workers to want to include them.  There are only a couple of individuals that I was on the fence about but in the end, I invited everyone because I don't want there to be friction from those not invited.  It only amounted to an additional 6 people so it wasn't a huge deal for us.  FI decided to only invite a few people from his work, none of them managers or supervisors.  I agree with pp's that you should limit talk at work to a minimum if you are not inviting everyone so feelings don't get hurt.  GL

DancesaurusRex

Listen to MilkDuds! She gives good advice.

I posted the exact same concern here when I first got engaged. The reason I'm not inviting co-workers (aside from the fact that it would add 60 or 70 extra people to my list, which I can't afford...) is that I want to be able to RELAX and enjoy my wedding without work stress following me. I don't know about you, but I don't socialize with my co-workers outside of the office and would feel awkward "letting loose" in front of them. Just my two cents. Don't invite anyone to your wedding unless you really want them there.

[Deleted User]

Ditto the PP.  If you have a few that you socialize with, by all means, invite them to the wedding.  I think most rational people will be understanding.  You don't have to invite the boss either.  I am doing neither, despite my leader already saying that they are holding the date on their calendar.  

Keep the wedding talk to a minimum at work as well.  Trust me, this helps so much.  Keep it out of sight/mind and they are less  likely to even realize they weren't invited.

rebarobert2012

You do not have to invite co-workers or bosses to your wedding unless you want to.  My fiance is planning to invite some of his co-workers, but I'm not planning to invite many of mine.

Kate61487

H and I decided to invite those we socialized with outside of work (about a dozen coworkers between us) and then we also invited our supervisors because we have positive, friendly relationships with them and felt that we'd like them there if they chose to come.  I invited my immediate supervisor and his supervisor, b/c the three of us sit right next to each other and I've developed a relationship with them both; I didn't go up any higher, even though the next tier is still in our immediate office, because I don't really have a relationship with him. 

There's not really a right or wrong way to do it; other than keeping talk to a minimum in front of anyone who's not invited, and that goes for work friends, distant family, social acquaintances, etc.