Who's around?

Brie2010

We just got some bad news and I could use some distraction.

tlv204

I am! And bored out of my mind, what kind of distraction do you have in mind? I hope the news isn't too bad

salt78

Oh no what happened, honey?

ggmae

I just got some bad news too and I am so sad. A friend of mine from HS/college died today. He was such a great kid and had everything going for him. It's so upsetting.

Sooo, I could use a distraction too!

salt78

Oh jeez, gg! That's so awful.

Nebb

I hope everything is ok Im here, just about to eat dinner but im not really going anywhere tonight so I will be around cause Im lame.

Brie2010

FBIL/FSIL lost their baby.  Granted, she was only 4-5 weeks pregnant, but we both feel awful and FMIL is taking it really hard.  They told EVERYONE right after they found out.  I don't know what to do--I want to let them know we're thinking of them, but I have no clue what to do, especially since a) I've only met them twice and b) they live cross-country.  We were so excited for our first niece or nephew.

I'm already on my second glass of wine and plan to keep going.

crfische

Well this thread is depressing.

What's up Briedizzle?

salt78

Oh no, Brie. I was worried it might have something to do with that. I'm so sorry.

crfische

Oh Brie, I'm so sorry. That's horrible news. This was the one you were going to send something to, right?

Brie2010

Yeah, I'm glad I didn't now.  We're trying to not be sad sacks about it, but it's hard.

gg, that's awful, I"m so sorry.

temerityjane

Oh dear, bummer for both of you indeed. You must both (Brie & gg) feel so helpless right now.

I am here tonight and watching YouTube videos of songs I liked when I was a sophomore in college. Mostly I am just confirming that I had excellent yet hysterical taste. Nothing too exciting nor brainpower consuming, so I am available to distract as needed.

Nebb

Aww thats so sad I was worried you were going to say that was the bad news. How awful.

ggmae

Oh no, Brie! Was it you that posted about this the other night and mentioned that you thought they had spread the word far too soon?

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]FBIL/FSIL lost their baby.  Granted, she was only 4-5 weeks pregnant, but we both feel awful and FMIL is taking it really hard.  They told EVERYONE right after they found out.  I don't know what to do--<strong>I want to let them know we're thinking of them</strong>, but I have no clue what to do, especially since a) I've only met them twice and b) they live cross-country.  We were so excited for our first niece or nephew. I'm already on my second glass of wine and plan to keep going.
Posted by Brie2010[/QUOTE]

I think this would be the simplest, and easiest thing to do. Just reach out (via email, if that's your normal contact) and let them know you are thinking of them---no need for details, just offer your support.

How sad for her, though. Sorry to hear the news, Brie...

**Mutley**

Hi, I am a semi-lurker and here. 

I have a funny website for distraction:  http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com/

tlv204

I'm sorry I don't have any great ideas for something you could do other than just let them know you're there for them if they want to talk or anything. That sucks.

I promise I'm not trying to be a one upper, but this is just a related story: H's cousin and cousin's wife were expecting their first, and had an actual party to announce that they were expecting, when she was about 6 weeks along, and then lost the baby about a week later  

That sucks all around, I hope they're handling it ok, I"m sure it's really hard.

**Mutley**

And now, I am just a lurker jackass who takes too long to post. 

I am soo sorry, Brie.  That news sucks.    Just letting them know that you are thinking about them will be great.  My SIL miscarried this past summer and all she really wanted was to know people cared.  Beyond that, she just drowned it in wine. 

Brie2010

Oh good lord tlv, that's awful.  She didn't put on FB, but she told the whole family, and they've been spreading it by word of mouth because it's a small town, so a lot of people know.

PS: Our dog food comes with doggie trading cards in it, and the last one we got was named Leonidas.  I thought of you!

julezlee

I'm so sorry, Brie and GG.  *hugs* for both of you.

I'm here watching Up. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Oh no! Is this the one you were going to send a gift to?

And yeah, it's 4:30 and I haven't even showered yet. Which I need to do because I'm far too lazy to cook dinner, so we're going out for dinner and a movie.

Brie2010

Mutley, I don't think you're a lurker!  Your wedding was gorgeous, by the way.

I was thinking about sending a card?  I feel bad, because pretty much any gesture we do will be obviously from me and not FI and I don't know either of them that well, but I really really like them and I think if we lived nearby we'd be couple BFFs.  I just don't want to be awkward or make her hate me.

nda_roxybabe

I'm sorry

tlv204

Ha that's awesome! (about the doggy trading card, clearly)

But yeah, I've never been pregnant and probably won't be for a while, but I can imagine how hard it would be to keep news like that inside for long enough for it to be "safer." While I know it's way more logical to wait, I can't keep a secret to save my life (at least not a happy secret), so I wouldn't be surprised if I end up in a similar situation. What baffled me about H's cousin though was that she had had two miscarriages before in a previous marriage, so I guess I was just surprised that they still told people so early. And in party form no less. But they have an adorable little girl now and are trying for a second, so it's better now at least

Brie2010

Yeah, the party is nuts.

I'm terrible at keeping secrets, too.  And so is my mom, who is theo nly person I'd tell so early, so it's just as good as telling everyone I know.  FI just said we're waiting till i'm 7 months pregnant to tell anyone.  I just feel so bad for them, but I know there's no way I could have any idea what they're going through now.

3rd glass of wine is gone, so I apologize for any random typos.

bbyckes

That is tough news Brie and gg.  So sorry for you both.

shellydiane820

I am sorry to hear that gg and brie

ricksang

I am sorry Brie and GG

julezlee

Brie - I think a card is a good idea.  It lets them know you're thinking of them.

ggmae

It's things like this that really are a wake-up call as to how short and precious life truly is. I just called my best friend and she can't believe it either. This guy was one of those people who are friends with everyone and who was kind to everyone that he met. It's such a shame. ;(

ggmae

Oh, and Brie - I agree with PP. In a situation like that, I would just send a nice card to let them know that they are in your thoughts.