Happy Monday!!
I am so tried of thinking about this! My mother has one brother. He was in the army pretty much all of my life and has never lived in Chicago while I have been here. He not so long ago retired, and instead of moving here where his sisters live, he decided to move to Arizona. No biggie. Well 2 years ago, my sister was getting married, and for whatever reason, asked him to walk her down the aisle. Our father has been dead since 1999. For me, I had no issues or thoughts about it. I would not have asked him to because we don't have that type of relationship. I have closer relationships with "uncles" from my church family. Well, needless to say, my sister and her husband decided not to have the big wedding and just got married in the small chapel of our church. She walked herself in and that was that.
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago. My aunt, his sister, mentioned to him that I was getting married. He didn't know because our save the dates had not gone out yet. He said that he didn't know if he was going to be able to come. Well, I sent the save the date anyway. He was in town this weekend for our family bar b que. I asked if he had gotten the save the date and he said yes. He said that he was going to try and come but he was not sure. He did not know that his sister had told me that he said that if he was asked to walk me down the aisle, he would be there and if not, he didn't know. WTH??!!! So you only come of you get to walk me down the aisle?? MY MOM is walking me!
I am so pissed at him feeling like it's only important for him to come if he has a role. It is not my fault that he has 2 sons, my other cousin is married and my sister had a change of plans. My father was sick from the time I was in the 8th grade in '88 until he passed in 99. It was my mom, me and my sister for so many years and that is who will present me at my wedding. If he doesn't show, oh well. I only see him every few years anyway.
And the whole time, my future husband was in the room......
