My nephew is getting married and wants a small wedding. He only wants to invite his 11 aunts and uncles, not their spouses because of the sheer number of us all. Is this right? Also he wants to have a B list for us 11-and send out our invites 9 months before, with the due date 7 months before so that he can look at a B list. How is this handled? All 11 of us are from out of state and would have to fly in for the wedding-should he just bite the bullet and invite all, knowing that 22 people would not logistically be able to make it? My sister is at her wits end, being pulled by the bride and groom, and her siblings, saying it's not right to not invite spouses. Help!