your biggest etiquette pet peeves go here

MCarmine

Inviting people to the bridal shower, bachelorette, ect but not to the wedding. I've seen this done a few times and it's happened to me once. It's such a sh*&$( thing to do.

Brie2010

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[QUOTE]I really hate gaps too.  I know they are common in some areas, they are in my area, but I hate them.  I hate that your wedding is taking up my ENTIRE day from 2pm until midnight.  I hate that there's not enough time to go home and change and relax, or if there is enough time, that it sort of a pain to get all dressed up again and go back out.  I hate that I'm hungry during the gap but can't eat because I know you're going to feed me at the reception.  I hate wondering around town trying to find something to do to kill time so you can get your pictures taken at the beach. 
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

This is mine, too.

janedoe1113a

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[QUOTE]P2 have you seen the posts on Budget Brides about tiered invites lately? Heels posted a link to one the other day. Because Canadians are totally used to it and don't think it is rude!!!! <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_budget-weddings_guest-list-cut" rel="nofollow">http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_budget-weddings_guest-list-cut</a>
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

That thread is ridic.

My biggest one is not having chairs at your ceremony.  I'm always early for things and I don't want to stand 15 minutes before, plus the extra 15 minutes of your "short" ceremony.

Paula Demitroff

I'm going with gift grabbing and not saying thank you. It costs people a lot of money to support you on your special day. Appreciate it.

I once went to a wedding where the bride sent one thank you card to my parents house for our entire family even though we all gave seperate gifts and live in different residences. Yikes. She didn't even thank my brother for coming from Nova Scotia or mention the location during the general thank you to out of town guests. (she mentioned closer locations)

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Inviting people to the bridal shower, bachelorette, ect but not to the wedding. I've seen this done a few times and it's happened to me once. It's such a sh*&$( thing to do.
Posted by MCarmine[/QUOTE]

My BFF went to a bachelorette in January. Then she mentioned something about her friend being married. I said, "Wait, they already got married?" She said, "Yeah, they went to Vegas with just their parents." This was after the friend had mentioned maybe having my friend in the wedding and planned her bachelorette to include all her friends in LA so they could "participate." Um, no.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]i really don't understand what is so wrong with being married before the ceremony. My new job started earlier than expected (3 months) and I have to move earlier. my parents are ridiculously religious and dont want me "living in sin"  My mom cries everytime we talk about it. ugh...so we decided to get married by the JP so they're not hurt...then have a ceremony as planned. is that really so bad?
Posted by MissMandey[/QUOTE]

A better solution would be to find a roommate for 3 months and then have a REAL wedding.

jnic0319

-Not enough seating
-No assigned tables (leaving the WP in the back, yeah it happened)
-Head table that doesn't include SO's
-Big gaps when the wedding and reception are at the same place and not providing your guests with food and drink!
-Open bar for wp and immediate family, cash for guest...still appalled that I know someone doing this
-Crappy food
-Dry weddings
-Waiting an entire year to send TY's (sorry your life can not possibly be that busy do one a night at least).

I do not mind the marriage after the marriage thing, I have friends who did this for military reasons and religious reasons and it never has bothered me once.

saxy414

Dollar dances.  I understand how that can be a regional thing, but the first time I saw it at a wedding, I was shocked.  It doesn't seem any different to me than asking for cash as gifts. If your family's ok with it, cool, but I will definitely not be participating.  Cash bars, too--I agree with Meaghan that asking guests to open their wallet for anything is my biggest pet peeve.

JessAndTrav

I hate Winnie the Pooh and Tigger too.

CA2MT4EveR

Around here people do garter auctions.  I am going to try my damndest to NOT have one, but it's such the norm that I am afraid someone will just grab the mic and start auctioning.  No garter toss, just throwing your money in an auction.  Last bidder gets it.

I guess I can just -oops- forget it!

squirrelly29

I know someone who decided to spend her whole bar budget on lighting...like big light boxed around the room and strobe ligths and her reasoning was that she does not drink but likes lights and if people think drinking is important, then they can pay for it...MEANWHILE, SHE IS SPENDING OVER 4K ON LIGHTING!

SparrowSong

No thank you notes. Inexcusable.

Dictating gifts (cash only/no boxes gifts/honeymoon registry). Just the general entitlement many seem to have involving gifts.

Open seating

Lack of a back-up plan for poor weather.

A couple trays of appetizers only at a meal-time reception and the gall to call it a "formal cocktail reception." Please. It's a cheap-ass reception is what it is. You can have a cheap wedding in your church rec center, or you can have an expensive wedding at the pretty venue. You don't get both.

Gaps. Glad I don't live in a predominantly Catholic area because the one gap wedding I went to ranks as one of the longest most boring days of my life. Those would be tedious if you had to go to two or three every single year.

Bubbalub

Asking for "no boxed gifts" or similar.

I also hate open seating, especially at a wedding where FI knows people but I don't so I just get uncomfortable.

15 bridesmaids and groomsmen. Seriously? No one needs 30 people in their wedding party.