OK, so FSIL want to make all the bout's, BM jewelry etc . She thinks my weddings is her own personal craft project and some of the stuff she makes is really really awful. (Beaded necklace that looks like its covered in rat hair which my FI made me wear after out in public so it wouldnt hurt her feelings...omg.. but I digress)
She wanted to plan the bachelorette party and planned a penis filled evening which my jr bm could not attend, not to mention I really don't do the bar scene. I just want to go bowling. She says she will do whatever I want, so I told her I want to go bowling, drink beer, eat pizza. Then no one is out $$$ (we are all kinda broke) and everyone can come
. Then I get an email back that it couldnt be what I really want and that I need to put my friends in their place and they are supposed to be my slaves..really?? spare me you freaking bridezilla. So I mail her back and tell her that no, really, this is what I want to do...and shes still trying to push the issue. My sister is now planning a bowling party and has told me if she gets any crap that she will tell FSIL that she is being MOH-zilla and throwing me the party she knows I will want and that FSIL is welcome to help as long as the help doesnt include male genitalia.
I wasnt thrilled about her making BM jewelry and I just wanted to let the girls wear their own...which I told her. I said word for word, "I've decided to let the girls choose their own jewelry since its so personal. Thats what they, and therefore I prefer." She got all pissy so I was like fine, silver and purple..do whatever you want. (Was not a hill I wanted to die on ) So I get an email back thats she bought all this junk (which I havent seen) to make stuff with and that she can make anything I want and so I need to get ideas...dah dah dah. I know that even if I did have ideas fo what I wanted she would just go ahead with what she wants to do anyways, but the point is I DON'T CARE WHAT JEWELRY THEY WEAR! I have a thousand things more important to do rather than worry about the necklaces and earrings of people who can clearly dress themselves.
How can I make this clear without causing a huge fight? I think I've been pretty straightforward but she doesnt seem to listen...what more do I have to do to get this person to understand that my friends are not shiit beneath my shoes and that I am not interested in playing dictator for my PPD. sigh. She makes me smoke. FMIL is no help...FSIL is in Greece and therefore she misses her and she can do no wrong, her crap smells like roses etc etc.