is it ok to hand deliver invites?

forrma7

is it okay to hand deliver invites some to people in a discreet way or is that just never okay?

this would be much more practical for some of our guests, but i'm not sure about it.

thanks!

quotequeen

I wouldn't do it.

Labrnr

I did it.

I think it depends on the formailty of the event.

Since we are having a backyard/beach wedding, I felt that it was ok.

L-Bride

I have had a wedding invitation hand delivered to my mailbox. I didn't think anything of it.

Adding: The wedding I went to with the hand delivered invite was very fancy. I don't think I would do it, but I didn't side-eye because it didn't have postage.

damaless

I had a friend call me ridiculous for mailing it to him instead of hand-delivering it.  I think he's a little clueless about the actual etiquette of it, though. :P

adamnkel

We did not hand deliver any of them but our neighbors yelled at us for wasting the stamps on them. My FI felt that they should all be mailed

MISSCOURTNEY20

Many of our guests are members of my church, who I see every Sunday and even during the week, but I am not going to hand deliver their invites. For one, it opens up the chance of people sitting them down somewhere and losing them and I think it takes away from the formality of the invite.

JoyTate1

Hand delivering reminds me of elementary school birthday parties.  If you aren't inviting the whole class, don't bring them to school.

MissLeahM

We hand delivered to our grandmothers and close friends. Other than that we mailed the rest of them.

Catwoman708

At one time, hand delivered (by a messenger) was the more formal way to receive invitations, but that doesn't really apply anymore. 

The postage stamp is not what makes an invitation more formal, and there is nothing unmannerly about giving someone an invitation in person.  It shouldn't be considered cheap or thoughtless, unless you just hand it to them with "oh, here's your invite".  Some people might think it even adds a more personal or sincere touch. 

I don't really have an opinion one way or the other.  But I would caution you against handing out invitations to some of those present, and not others.  It's always unmannerly to invite people to an event or discuss it in front of others who aren't invited.

squirrly

I would not hand deliver them.

superheroprincess

I don't see the big deal... a friend asked me if I would mind her hand delivering the invite and I said "of course not!" 

I think getting it delivered in person is a nice touch!

forrma7

i definitely didn't mean to like, gather a bunch of my friends, and say "you get one, you get one, you don't, you get one..."

i meant some of my college friends will still be at school when invites go out, and many of them don't check their campus mailboxes.

and they would all still be formally addressed with calligraphy, the whole nine yards.

thanks for all the input everyone, it's really helpful