Hi ladies - I'm not sure what to do about my bachelorette party and would like to know your thoughts.
One of my bridesmaids is a wonderful person and friend. She's always been there for me and has been amazingly helpful with the wedding. However, she is very reserved, doesn't drink and sometimes gets mad when other people do. Some people have told me that she's a "buzzkill" and not a lot of fun to be around. The other day, she complained to me that she doesn't want to be the only sober one at my bachelorette party and that she really hopes myself and the other girls don't get too drunk and act like "alcoholics." Also, she recently had a baby and hates being away from her for more than a few hours at a time (totally understandable). Plus she has told me that money is tight for her and her husband right now.
For the bachelorette party, we're planning on going to Vegas - so we'll definitely be drinking, and although we'll try not to spend too much money, it will probably be somewhat expensive. All of the other girls are fine with the budget we've agreed on, and they are all looking forward to partying.
The other bridesmaids have suggested that I should try to convince her not to come to the bachelorette party. They think (and I hate to admit this, but I do agree) that she will be complaining the whole time about us drinking, about her not having any money and about having to leave her baby - and that she'll ruin our time. I've casually mentioned to my friend that if she isn't able to make it, I'll understand. However, she says she still really wants to come. I do want her to be there, but I am concerned about how she'll act. I also don't want to put her in a bad financial situation. I just want all of us to have a great time, and I certainly don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. This girl is a good friend of mine and I don't want to damage our friendship.
How do you guys think I should handle this?