Inviting Kids Question

taramay1720

I just recently got engaged. The wedding isn't going to be until March of 2012, but I started making a rough estimate of people I would like to be on the guest list. We are trying to keep it small, about 100 people. My fiancé has 3 nieces that I would love to have there. However, just because we want them there, does that mean I have to invite everyone's kids? Some of them I would really prefer not be there because of behavior issues. And several members of his family have 3 or more kids. Also, if everyone's kids are going to be there, it really takes a big chunk out of my guest list. What is the right thing to do in this case?

aleighk1

Please go look back a few pages at all the other questions exactly like this.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]I just recently got engaged. The wedding isn't going to be until March of 2012, but I started making a rough estimate of people I would like to be on the guest list. We are trying to keep it small, about 100 people. My fiancé has 3 nieces that I would love to have there. However, just because we want them there, does that mean I have to invite everyone's kids? Some of them I would really prefer not be there because of behavior issues. And several members of his family have 3 or more kids. Also, if everyone's kids are going to be there, it really takes a big chunk out of my guest list. What is the right thing to do in this case?
Posted by taramay1720[/QUOTE]

You are fine to pick and choose who you want to be there, but if you invite a few nieces and not others you are likely to offend family members and cause hurt feelings.  With family it is best to make general cuts, such as first cousins only.  It is easier for people to accept that their kids aren't invited when their counterparts also aren't invited. 

kara811

You can choose which kids you want to have at the wedding, but if you do, make sure it's family kids only. For our wedding, FI's nieces will be there, and so will my little sister and younger first cousins. Other guests' kids won't be invited. Do it to those only in the immediate family, if the other relatives' children are just cousins.