Invitation Nightmare

hlfarrar3

So I am working on the guest list and who to include on the invites. I have several friends who I am close to but I do not know their husbands well if at all. Is it wrong to only invite my friends if they are married with kids? We are trying not to invite people just for the sake of inviting them... Please help! Thanks!

aMrsin09

Yes, it is wrong.  Married/living together/engaged/long-term SOs need to be invited together.  How would you feel if, after you are married, your H gets an invite to wedding that doesn't include you?

However, you do not have to invite the friends children.

hlfarrar3

hmmm, true that is what I thought. I just felt weird I guess inviting someone I don't even know. But, I get what you are saying. Thanks!

aMrsin09

If you really don't know the husbands at all, it may turn into a situation where they tell the wives to go without them.  Not a whole lot of men like to get dressed up for 6 hours for someone they don't even know.

thesuninherhead

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_invitation-nightmare?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:454c0d8e-1d57-4b1c-b73c-452b1d7a6ed8Post:342b3217-7fc9-4b3b-bbdf-e8c4d721a312">Invitation Nightmare</a>:
[QUOTE]So I am working on the guest list and who to include on the invites. I have several friends who I am close to but I do not know their husbands well if at all. Is it wrong to only invite my friends if they are married with kids? We are trying not to invite people just for the sake of inviting them... Please help! Thanks!
<p>Posted by hlfarrar3[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>You've got one thing right- this surely would be an invitation nightmare. Thankfully aMrs has already brought you back to reality! </p><p> </p><p>(aka: another vote for yes, this is wrong and no, you should not do this). </p>

felkels

I would leave it up to them...Invite both but if their men don't want to come that is fine...just maybe put a spot on the RSVP to make sure you know that...Maybe a line with number of people planning to attend.  And be polite but clear that children are not invited. 

swim1011

I'm glad you realize this isn't a good idea!    Think of it this way- if you wouldn't want it to happen to you (eg, your or your DH not being invited, or being separated bc of a head table), then don't do it to your guests.