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So I get married today....

...and I just received this message on Facebook (of all places) from my FI's stepdad's sister. (And yes, this is for real) lol There's no punctuation so it's kinda hard to read in certai parts.

You sound like a pretty selfish person, what you don't know is dumb bitch I would of sent you a card with alot of money and so would the rest of my family the wedding is for you and david but it is also about other family members you keep thinking about what you have to pay and what would you get well I say get screwed. ****s family is shiit and yours everything. And I wouldn't go cutting everyone else weddings or ideas of weddings down because to be honest your the one that is the freak. And you just lost out on some nice wedding gifts and baby gifts and can kiss my ass bitdch.


   I don't even know where to begin... FI just left to go ream out his stepdad but neither one of us had any words after we got done reading through it.
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     **Did not mean to post twice, my computer froze up. Sorry - I fail.  :(  lol
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    What was this in response to?  What is she pissed off about?
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    Wha???
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       My FI is not close at all to his stepdad so some of his side of the family were not invited and apparently they think it's my doing, that I'm telling my FI what to do. What they don't know is my own dad's side of the family wasn't invited (those I am not close to) and some of my FI's biological father's side were not invited. This wedding is only 41 big, it was never supposed to be a huge shindig.
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    Don't let it get you down.  Take it as a confirmation that you were smart not to invite these people and enjoy your day.
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    I can't even really understand what that says. I say just don't respond. that'll make her madder than if you reply
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    I hope that woman wasn't invited.
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    Happy Wedding Day!

    Who cares if these people are upset they didn't get invited or what not. They won't be there and that should make it a lot less stressful for you! People like that have no place in my life, tbh. There will always be miserable people to bring you down - because they get joy of of other people's misery. It's sad really.

    Go have a mimosa, relax, and enjoy your day! Congrats!
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    Def do not let people like this get you down on one of the biggest and happiest days of your life. They are jealous and very immature if you ask me. She is throwing a tantrum because she wasn't invited to the party like a 5 year old. and it seems that you are MUCH better off not having someone like this at your wedding that could potentially destroy it for you and your FH. Shrug it off, be the bigger person. I wouldn't even give her the satisfaction of a response. If it was me, I would remove her from my facebook all together and block her from sending messages. Now go get ready for your big day and forget about petty people like this. HAVE A GREAT GREAT WEDDING DAY!!!!
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    edited July 2010
    See, I think you just have to laugh at this. Her response totally validates your decision not to invite her. Also, it's hard to really take the insane rantings of an uneducated and ignorant person personally. It's just the crazy talking, babe.

    ETA- Have a FAB day!!! :)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_married-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:455043d2-2c00-4a68-b821-0bc3e1668695Post:80bf2d6a-4306-4b30-b02d-fc04cc783f63">Re: So I get married today....</a>:
    [QUOTE]Def do not let people like this get you down on one of the biggest and happiest days of your life. They are jealous and very immature if you ask me. She is throwing a tantrum because she wasn't invited to the party like a 5 year old. and it seems that you are MUCH better off not having someone like this at your wedding that could potentially destroy it for you and your FH. <strong>Shrug it off, be the bigger person. I wouldn't even give her the satisfaction of a response. If it was me, I would remove her from my facebook all together and block her from sending messages.</strong> Now go get ready for your big day and forget about petty people like this. HAVE A GREAT GREAT WEDDING DAY!!!!
    Posted by HKD817[/QUOTE]

    Unfortunately, I had to do this recently with one of my SILs. She's got major issues (everything is ALWAYS about her - even when it's not). She sent a nasty email to a couple family members and we didn't even give her the decency of a response (even though she uninvited us to her wedding - 9 mos away - after we had already put down deposits on our cabins for the cruise). Some people thrive off the unhappiness of others. And when they see them happy, they have to cut them down to make themselves feel better. Don't even worry about replying. Delete her email, fb, and whatever else you have and move on. Best advice ever.
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    Oh yea. I'm not friends with this woman on FB at all, my profile is private, and I don't plan on replying.  I WANTED to, to really just let loose on this snot, but like you all said, decided it would be better not to give her the satisfaction that I even read it or care at all what she thinks.

       And I thought I was avoid the crazy!  lol


    Happy Friday and thanks for the well wishes.  :)
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    I'm so sorry this awful woman decided to do this on your wedding day. Everyone is entirely right though -- she wants drama, and if it were me I'd try really hard not to give her the satisfaction of any.

    Enjoy your wedding!
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    She sounds like she is unbalanced and battling some demons in her own mind. 

    Do not let her get you down. I'm glad you posted on here so you can vent, but PLEASE, do not give this woman another thought. 

    Today is one of the greatest days of your life, and don't let her consume you with negative thoughts or energy. 

    Now, take a deep breath, stop thinking about her, and go and get ready for the best day of your life.

    CONGRATULATIONS!!! XO
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    Yeah, I wouldn't answer either.  After the wedding, if you see her, you can mention that you had a fabulous time with the 41 guests who weren't rude twits via email.  :D
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    Everyone else had great advice, I just want to say congrats and enjoy your day! :)
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    Have a happy, happy wedding day!  She sounds like a whacko, frankly, and shouldn't have one iota of effect on your wedding day.  Have a joyous day!
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    Have a WONDERFUL day.

    One of my husband's sisters sent me an AWFUL letter in the mail. I know she thought either DH would get the mail and see it was from her (addressed to me) and ask about it OR I would read it, be upset and show it to him.  She wanted a bunch of drama.  I was very hurt by the message, stunned and didn't deserve what she said.  I didn't tell anyone. I kept the letter for a couple of years, just in case I ever needed but I kept it locked in a drawer at work where no one else would ever access it. I finally threw it away.

    She didn't get the drama and attention she wanted because no one ever knew about it. She wasted her time and energy and didn't get what she was looking for out of it.

    Do I think she's a B++++ - ha, oh just every time I have to even think about her. But to her face I act like I never got her letter. For all she knows DH (her brother)  intercepted it and didn't show it to me.
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    I must admit to being just a little curious about what she would consider a nice wedding gift and baby gift. Does she give them at the same time, like a pre-emptive strike? Maybe I'll invite her to my wedding, with an open bar I bet she's loads of fun!
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    What a biotch. But seriously, don't let anyone put you down if they can't even manage to write one grammatically correct sentence in a paragraph. What an idiot.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_married-today?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:455043d2-2c00-4a68-b821-0bc3e1668695Post:5a6c999e-dbfc-407b-b4da-504a74d3c0c8">So I get married today....</a>:
    [QUOTE]...and I just received this message on Facebook (of all places) from my FI's stepdad's sister. (And yes, this is for real) lol There's no punctuation so it's kinda hard to read in certai parts. You sound like a pretty selfish person, what you don't know is dumb bitch<strong> I would of sent you a card with alot of money and so would the rest of my family</strong> the wedding is for you and david but it is also about other family members you keep thinking about what you have to pay and what would you get well I say get screwed. ****s family is shiit and yours everything. And I wouldn't go cutting everyone else weddings or ideas of weddings down because to be honest your the one that is the freak. <strong>And you just lost out on some nice wedding gifts and baby gifts and can kiss my ass bitdch.</strong>    I don't even know where to begin... FI just left to go ream out his stepdad but neither one of us had any words after we got done reading through it.
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    i can't imagine why they are not close i mean - this whole post/rant from her seems so classy and elegant!

    btw love the fact they think they can bribe or buy their way in - classic

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    Happy wedding day!  That woman sounds extremely juvenile.  Who really cusses someone out because they weren't invited to a wedding??  Screw her, put it out of your mind all together, and go enjoy your day!
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    I really LOL on this one.  Have a great wedding and think of this as a funny story to tell years from now.
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    Augh.. I would have been a witch and replied back thanking her for her well wishes and how awesome of a time im going to have.

    But, have a great time!
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    How awful!  I think you dodged a huge bullet here - good thing she's not coming tonight...  I mean it really takes a special kind of jerk to write that kind of message on the BRIDE'S VERY WEDDING DAY! 

    The facts that:

    - it's grammatically incoherent,
    - uses such hateful language,
    - and came ON YOUR WEDDING DAY

    render the author completely lacking in class and credibility.  Please don't let this get you down.  Have an AMAZING wedding :)
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    Tell her to take a grammer course and remove her from your Facebook!  That is AWFUL!
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    What the eff? 

    I'm glad you've already decided not to reinforce this with a reply. The woman sounds BSC.

     

    I hope the wedding went well!

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    You might be able to report her to fb for being offensive.  Other than that have a great day. 
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      Sorry for taking so long to reply back, but I just wanted to thank you all for the advice and well wishes. Our wedding was great, our families enjoyed themselves and we cried ALOT! 


    Thanks again!
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