So, the wedding is off.

btrflykate1230 · June 2010

Hey All,

Just thought I would give you a head's up as to why I was on a lot, and then not at all. We just went through a lot of shiit and realized that we're not right for each other. It's basically irreconcilable differences.

I don't know if I will GBCK or not, since I do like a lot of women on here. I do feel kind of weird hanging around a wedding board when I'm not getting married though. We'll see.

I almost didn't even post this, since I didn't want to seem like an AW, but I didn't want the people here who I'm FB friends with to go, "WTF?" so, I figured I'd just post a brief thing here.

So, that's that.

Also, now that the wedding is canceled, should I reimburse the BM for their dresses or just let it go? I just don't know what the right thing to do is.

Nebb · June 2010

Oh shiit honey, check your FB in a bit.

danieliza1127 · June 2010

Wow, I'm so sorry.

I would encourage the girls to try to return the dresses and if that's totally not possible, then yeah if you can afford it, it would be great if you could pay for the dresses, even in part.

laurenclaire1386 · June 2010

I'm really sorry to hear that

As for the BM dresses, I have no idea.

Brie2010 · June 2010

Oh man. That sucks. I'm really sorry.

Don't GBCK! There are plenty of non-engaged/married people around these parts, and we can be a pretty good sounding board for people going through a tough time. We're here for you. (big hug)

jasmineh7777 · June 2010

Oh Kate, I'm so sorry.

You're a great Mom, and although this is tough, you'll get through it. *hugs*

FutureMrsTR · June 2010

Oh Kate, I'm so sorry. Ditto Brie that the boards can be great for support if you decide to stay.

BecW2be · June 2010

Oh kate, I'm so sorry. Please don't GBCK. Hang in there and we're here if you need us.

kikibaby · June 2010

I'm so sorry- I was just asking where you'd been the other day

It's better than you found out now, though. Good luck with everything! *hugs*

Moneypenny424 · June 2010

I'm so sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself and we're here for you--you should definitely stick around at least for the humor. And you still have to come to our Boston GTG. We'll help cheer you up! Hang in there, love.

Calypso1977 · June 2010

i have no idea yoru backstory, but i'm very sorry to hear this. however, its better to walk away now, then after you are married with a few kids, mortgage, etc. i'm sure it was a very difficult decision, but someday you will thank yourself for being strong.

as far as the dresses go, i agree with dani - see if they can return them, and if not, i'd probably offer to pay for them. if i was your friend, i would decline taking the money knowing all you went through. so, hopefully they will think the same way.

andyandhillary · June 2010

Oh Kate I am so sorry. I am glad, though, that you guys realized this sooner than later. While I would really miss you (and have missed you!) around here you should do what's best as far as being here goes. I'll keep you in my T & P for sure. *hug*

ohwhynot · June 2010

Aw, Kate, I'm sorry to read that. I had wondered where you'd been.

Please don't GBCK - there are other women here whose engagements ended, and you're a nice addition to the boards.

I really don't have any words, but I'm sorry you're going through a tough time. I do know that this board was a pretty amazing source of support for me when I had a rough time; I'm sure it would come through for you, too, if you want to get stuff off your chest.

JessAndTrav · June 2010

Oh, Kate, that's terrible. I'm really sorry.

Good luck in figuring things out.

NuggetBrain · June 2010

Oh hun, I'm so sorry. But if it's for the best, then it's for the best. Don't feel like you have to leave though - there are a lot of women on here who are married and still here, and some that aren't even engaged.

btrflykate1230 · June 2010

I will say I am scared shiitless of being a single parent. Holy fuuck that is going to suck.

For those of you who have done it, how did you do it? Any tips?

And thanks so much for all the support. It really means a lot to me.

btrflykate1230 · June 2010

And I would still love to do the Boston GTG so keep me in the loop, please!

[Deleted User] · June 2010

Hugs to you, Kate. I'm so sorry.

crfische · June 2010

AWWW KATE!!! I'm so sorry. That really sucks.

I hope you stick around though. Don't chu dare go anywhere.

mandysmear · June 2010

Oh goodness! So sorry to hear that Kate.

I think you are incredibly strong and I think that it was a great thing that you called it off. So many people would get married anyway. Especially with a child involved. Kudos girly! ANd lots of hugs.

I would reimburse the girls, yes. They might not want you to though. If it was my best friend, I would refuse the money. I'd just tell her to take me for lunch or to buy me a drink or something.

jonchrissy · June 2010

I'm so sorry to hear about it. I'm not a single mom, but my mom is and I give you a lot of credit for doing it. It was hard, but well worth it for our family.
As far as BMs dresses, FSIL called off her wedding last year and for those bridesmaids who had already purchased their dresses, FIs parent's reimbursed them.

baystateapple · June 2010

Kate, I am so sorry. *HUGS*

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · June 2010

I hope you're doing okay, Kate. Let me know if you need to talk anything out. Seriously.

salt78 · June 2010

I'm really sorry to hear about this, Kate.

crfische · June 2010

About the BM dresses, I was supposed to be a bridesmaid in 3 weddings that have been called off, and a bride for 1 wedding that was called off.

In every instance someone offered to pay for the dress. In every instance, I or they said no.

pinkpinot · June 2010

Awww Kate! I was wondering where you have been. I think you're incredibly brave and good luck with everything. Please stick around!

sucrets4 · June 2010

(((HUGS)))

So sorry, girl. And I agree that you should stick around, if you feel comfortable doing so. Lots of us are here for the company and not weddings at all!

katiewhompus · June 2010

Kate I am so so sorry to hear that

You are such a strong person for calling it off, and I know you will be a great single mom. Just keep your chin up and let your son help you, even with little things.
If you need to leave I understand, but we will really really miss you around here. You have a great personality and we love having you around.

[Deleted User] · June 2010

That sucks. I don't know the story, but I'm sorry to hear that it didn't work out. And I give any single mom props because my mom was one, and I get the feeling you'll be just fine.

As for the dresses, I'd also see if the girls could return them. If not, I'd offer to pay for them. Who knows, maybe they'll decide to keep them if they can wear them again.