guest question

mck776

I sent out the save the dates the other day and my cousin wrote me an email saying he can't attend, so do i still send him a wedding invitation, even though he said we wont be attending?

BinxRose

Yes, do still send him an invitation. Depending how far out your wedding is, his plans could change.

lyndausvi

I would.  Things change.  Once I told my cousin after her STD went out I could not attend because of work so she never sent me an invitation.   Then something changed and I ended up having a few weeks off and could have attended. 

All that said, I didn't sent an invite to one of DH's friends when they told us they could not make it. They were due with their first child on our wedding date and our wedding was OOT.  They specifically told us not to waste an invites because, well if things changed it would not be for the good.

mkrupar

This is why, as a guest, I would never tell someone I couldn't attend after only receiving the STD. Plans may change for your cousin and it would suck if you never sent an invitation and then they may just feel snubbed.

allisonkbye

I would thank him for letting you know, and tell him he's still going to get an invitation but you obviusly don't expect him to come, you just want him to have one. 

I would also start a spreadsheet of a final guest list count, and leave an empty column for comments. for his name, just put 'said can't come when got std'. it sounds silly but once you send out the real invitations and have hundreds of people to account for and keep track of, you realize you wont remember everyones excuses on why they can't come or aren't sure if they can come, and having that reminder on why you might not have gotten his rsvp will help. 

Melissa603

My FI's mother has told us that certain people will not be coming after we sent out STDs. We will still be sending invites in case plans change or circumstances are different.