Anyone not changing their name?

kwkinzel

This has been a tricky topic for me and my FI for a while - he has a hyphenated last name and is not a fan of it - it's too long, various forms don't recognize the hyphen as a valid symbol for a name, etc. But he's so used to it that he doesn't want to take my name/is too lazy to go through the process of changing it (which is even MORE of a lengthy process without a marriage certificate!).

I'm fine with the idea of using his name socially and my madien name professionally, or even doing the maiden-name-to-middle-name switch. There just doesn't seem to be much of a point of me taking his name if a) he doesn't like it to start and b) any children end up with a different name, because he doesn't want to pass down the hyphen. (Insert lots of frustration here)

So for now, I'm keeping my name.

iheartmarshall

Legally, I plan on going with the four name option:  First name, Middle name, Maiden name, Married name.... just so it's a bit easier to connect personal documents, plus I'm one of only two grandchildren in my family and I really want to keep our name alive somewhow (and my cousin just isn't the marrying type so it's probably all up to me to keep the fam going).  Socially though, I'll go with his last name as it's a lot easier to deal with.

mrsrichard33

I can not imagine not taking my husbands name. Im not attached to my last name now, Im always going to be who I was born to be. I am so excited to take on his name and start a family and be called mrs. _____. Thats the most exciting part of all this I think. I am not changing my birth cert though because i was born with my last name not his. So i will change everyhting like drivers lisc, health card, sin card and all that stuff.

ive already started the paper work and we arent getting married for 2 months,
Ive also been practicing my signature,

Chrismaneiro

I am in the exact same boat as you angelstar975! I am attached to my last name, it's not common and shows my heritage. Also, I'm the only child, so I know my dad doesn't want the name to "die out". My maiden name is long as it is, and FI is as well. No way am I hyphenating and having a butchered last name on all my documents. FI said to do whatever makes me happy, but I know he'd love for me to take his name. At this point, we are 2 months from the wedding, but I find myself becomig more and more firm in keeping my name..it's been mine all my life and I can't see myself changing it