So I know this is not the right board, but you guys give great advice and people's feelings are involved, so maybe its not totally wrong.
So my mom wanted to make my dress. It was important to her though she said that shouldn't be the reason I chose the dress. We also went to look at dresses and I found one I loved, though everyone else said other styles were "me." I also found a pattern that was great. I figured I would love it more if my mom made it (it means more if that makes sense), and she said it meant a lot that she could make it. Lastly, making it costs about %10 of the cost of buying it. So I decided to have her make it, she was so happy about it she cried (not something she does).
So after she starts she tells my Fi that she wishes she could have just bought me a dress. Grrrr! She wanted to make it, she made that very clear. It meant a lot to her.
Now I'm wishing that I just bought the one in the store. I know she is just scared of making it and it was just a passing comment, but how do I get over this feeling that I should have gone with something else? Once it is made I'm sure I'll love it too, and in fact it will be better because my mother made it. For now though I'm just upset about it all, and wish I went with something else. How do I stop feeling this way? Also, how do I stop feeling annoyed that my mom wanted to do something then seems to be acting like I'm taking advantage of her?