This is a pretty random situation: my sister invited my boss's wife to my shower and she was planning to come, but at the last minute couldn't make it (child care issue). A few days before the wedding, she dropped off a shower gift at work for me. She and my boss were also invited to the wedding and RSVP-ed yes, but due to a death in the family did not end up coming. I am writing thank you notes now (3 weeks after wedding, a little late!) and I got to her shower present. They did not send a wedding present and I'm not sure they will. Should I thank them for the shower gift as if it was a weddinng gift too (ie. address to both) or just as a shower gift (ie. address the note to the wife only, not both). I don't want it to come across weird!
Thanks in advance!