I chose not to invite a 'friend' of mine to my wedding (I knew him and sort of dated him for a while in high school), because he had been acting like a total jerk for the past year or so. Whenever I saw him recently, he would very loudy tell embarrassing stories about me to groups of people. And he has a history of posting horrible pictures of me on facebook, including from nights when I was drunk in college (don't worry, I've defriended him so that can't happen again). Well, he showed up at the wedding. Since I didn't want to make a scene or anything, I smiled, greeted him, and moved on. A friend told me last night that he had actually printed out a bunch of the drunken photos of me and was trying to put them around the reception tables. I had no idea this was going on, and the friend assured me she stopped him before anyone else saw. I am absolutely livid. It takes a lot of guts to show up at a wedding you weren't invited to, and that alone made me a little mad. But now this? Seriously? Do I have to write this guy a thank you note for the gift he gave us? What do I say? I'm thinking something along the lines of 'Thank you for salad server. Enjoy the rest of your summer.' Do y'all think that's ok? I would really rather write something with a lot of curse words in it, but I'm being the bigger person here. Sorry for the long post and TIA!