Evite for a shower?

suzie211

Ladies, what is the etiquette rule on this?  I am grateful that my mother and sister want to host a shower in my honor, but my sister has contacted me wanting everyone's email addresses instead of their actual address.  In the age of technology, I know Evite is used all the time for birthday parties and the like, but is this ok, too?


Thanks!

MoonlightSilver

Are you inviting any older relatives who might not understand how the evite works?  There are plenty of ways to get super cheap invitations (Vistaprint, for one) if she was worried about prices.

OwningAHome1981

I prefer evites or at least paper invites with an email address. It's so old fashioned and a pain in the butt when I have to call someone to RSVP. I think evites are so much easier b/c all you have to do is just click yes or no. I think in this day and age, a lot more people will begin to appreciate and send them.

Showers are not very formal so I think it's fine- and I prefer it. (Note: my opinion usually is not usually of the majority but I don't really care).

LaSak87

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_evite-for-a-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:492f4d07-0e1f-4944-a9cd-93229141ed37Post:590908b7-eb5f-4652-a731-dce700cbb712">Re: Evite for a shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it depends on the type of shower. I think evites are best for super casual things, like houseparties, not showers. But if your sister is hosting, she gets to decide.
Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]
This.  It might be tough for some of the guests who don't tend to use technology (I don't think DH's grandmother owns a computer). 
Funny story about evites.  My MOH sent one out for my bachelorette party (with my bra and underwear size) and accidentally sent it to my FIL.  He really wasn't expecting that email.

suzie211

Thanks ladies!  

I'd say all of the guests invited shouldn't have a problem with the technology aspect.  I just wanted to make sure there wasn't a rule we were breaking.  FI has some strong personalities on his side of the family when it comes to some of these things, so I just wanted to cover my bases.   I'm cool with the Evite, I just wanted to make sure it wasn't an etiquette faux pas that would unnessarily stir the pot.

AddieCake

I never received the evite to a birthday party for one of my cousin's kids a couple years ago b/c it went to my spam folder. Just something to keep in mind. 

suzie211

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_evite-for-a-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:492f4d07-0e1f-4944-a9cd-93229141ed37Post:d2619b97-62de-464c-bc14-b4559f4ccf06">Re: Evite for a shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]I never received the evite to a birthday party for one of my cousin's kids a couple years ago b/c it went to my spam folder. Just something to keep in mind. 
Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

I've had this same issue with evite lately and discussed it already with my sister.  Her plan was to personally call or email anyone that hadn't responded in case it did this.  Sounds like extra work to me, but she's the one hosting and willing to do it! 

lisabeats

This isn't a hard and fast rule, but I feel like showers should have paper invites, while it's more okay to have evites for bachelorette parties. This is how my sister (MOH) and I are handling my 1 shower and then BP. Since the BP is really just my closer friends and they are helping plan most of the BP, we didn't think a over-the-top formal invitation was necessary. But I think for tradition and respect of those you're inviting to a shower, a paper invitation goes a long way.

MuppetOverlord

I personally like seeing and holding paper invites. I feel like that's party of the event, but I host a lot of parties and always have a formal invite.

With that said, I wouldn't be offended by an evite. I've been invited to a baby shower before via invite. I know it's not a wedding shower but I was okay with it and we appreciated being able to use the "discussion" post because it allowed discussion on what to bring for food and a few people bought things off the registry list from a different store so it didn't pull off the registry and were able to communicate that it was taken.

That prompted the Sister of the mommy to be to give her the password to the registry so she could affect it, too.
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Amyzen83

I think it depends on how much time they have to plan the shower. I was super pissed at a friend who was throwing my other friend a shower and I was supposed to do the invitations and I kept asking and asking for the needed information but she decided to wait until the last minute to give it to me with lame ass excuses as to why she couldn't shoot over a 5 min email with the details. I ended up by telling her the best I could do was evites otherwise she would have to buy them herself.

In other words if you have at least 2 weeks before the shower then yes mail out printed invites, if you have less than that, then Evites or hand delivered invites are the way to go.

Wheels987

As long as it's not a facebook invite, I don't judge. Our friend group lives by evites so I wouldn't find it weird at all, but my mother would probably freak out over it. I think it depends on your circle.

I gave my BMs email addresses for people, but if they need more, I figure they'll ask me or my FI.

erinlin25

as long as your guests are active on their email, its worth a shot, but have your sister prepared wih numbers to follow up for those who do not get it.  I love evites, but I am also on my email all day so its not an issue.  My mom on the other hand probably checks her email once a week.