Wedding Invite Wording/ Parent issues

jordykh

After lots of issues with their wedding date FI's dad and step mom to be are now getting married less than a month before us. My question is, when we send out the invites they won't be married yet, but at our wedding they will be. Step mom to be says to just leave her off it's no big deal, FI agrees since they didn't get together until he was 17 so she isn't really a parental figure to him. However, my mom completely disagrees and thinks it would look bad on her to not involve her on the invite.


Anyone else have this type of issue and other options, since both of our parents are giving us our wedding and we are young, we don't like "together with our parents" is a good option.

TIA

Celles

If you want to include her, use her maiden name since she won't be married at the time that the invites go out.

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I would probably just leave her off, esp since she seems ok with it.

MyNameIsNot

If she doesn't want to be added, and your FI doesn't feel the need to have her on there, just leave her off.

Include her in the program and have her walk with FFIL at the ceremony.

squirrly

1 - Step-parents who didn't raise the bride or groom are not properly included on the invitation anyway. 

2 - You can only list people as their marital status exists at the time the invite is mailed (the only exception is that legally separated parents can be treated as though they are already divorced).  So, she would not reasonably be included as she wouldn't yet even be his step-mother.

3 - Whatever you do, make sure that any names used (on the invites, on mailing addresses, etc.) are accurate when they are mailed.  Don't change them early.

JennaV26

Don't put it on there. She is obviously okay with not being included on the invitation (and might even prefer that she not be). This one isn't up to your parents.