Help! Addressing an Invite

julyxoxo

Hi all - I am hoping you can help me with something! My Rabbi is also a doctor of psychology, so when I am addressing his invite, how should I address him and his wife? Should it be:

1. Rabbi & Mrs. John Doe, Ph.D
2. Rabbi & Mrs. John Doe (just forget the Dr.?)
3. Dr. & Mrs. John Doe (just forget the Rabbi?)

Any help would be greatly appreciated!

ootmother2

Religious titles outrank  professional titles
PhDs don't use the title outside academia anyhow

NOLAbridealmost

Option 2.   It's never required to use academic titles in social settings except for medical dollars. 

julyxoxo

Thats great!! Thank you!!!

Kristin789

Rabbi Richard Allen and Dr. Janet Allen

Every time there's a question about addressing envelopes to a person who has a Ph.D. or Ed.D. or D.M.A. or other sort of terminal degree, several Knotties respond that NO ONE holding an academic doctorate uses Dr. on formal invitations.

I've taught at this college for a long time and before that, worked as the Public Relations director at another college in another state, and I coached a team that competed all over the country every year.  Frankly, I don't know of anyone who has a doctorate who DOES NOT use the Dr. on formal invitations and other correspondence that's not a birthday card from mom.

Jaridds68

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-addressing-an-invite?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4981605d-2a1e-4bc0-94be-68667fdbcf2aPost:07a969d8-4891-4c07-8fd7-27c2caa018c3">Re: Help! Addressing an Invite</a>:
[QUOTE]Rabbi Richard Allen and Dr. Janet Allen Every time there's a question about addressing envelopes to a person who has a Ph.D. or Ed.D. or D.M.A. or other sort of terminal degree, several Knotties respond that NO ONE holding an academic doctorate uses Dr. on formal invitations. I've taught at this college for a long time and before that, worked as the Public Relations director at another college in another state, and I coached a team that competed all over the country every year.  <strong>Frankly, I don't know of anyone who has a doctorate who DOES NOT use the Dr. on formal invitations and other correspondence that's not a birthday card from mom.</strong>
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

<div>Just because that's been your experience doesn't make it right. The phd's you know who use 'dr' in social situations should not be doing that. Technically yes, they are a dr in their field, but it's incredibly frowned upon to insist on being called 'dr' outside of your field if you're a phd. It's seen as being pretentious to do that. </div><div>
</div><div>I'm not a phd or dr, but I have several aunts and uncles who are phd's and my parent's are dr's, and serveral friends who have their phd or are a dr, so I've grown up having interesting discussions about proper etiquette w/ regards to the title 'dr'. </div>