Grooms sisters to attend bachlorette party?

Calypso1977

i see Danielle's logic.  as they say, love is blind.  why risk ruining the brother-sister relationship which is lifelong?  nothing she could have told him or shown him proably would have made him change his mind.  chances are, he knew what he was getting into anyway, and probably didnt care.  her telling him probably would have caused a big stir and family feuds down the road.

SwedishChick2011

Maybe the OP doesn't want to invite the groom's sisters to the bach party because she felt obligated to put them in the WP but doesn't really like them?  If that's true, she shouldn't have asked them to be in the WP in the first place, but she did, so now they should be invited to the bach party.

crfische

Holy shiit, Danielle.

NuggetBrain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_grooms-sisters-attend-bachlorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:499ed6c6-7563-40fe-a060-0c7c115c6e68Post:36f0a51b-0fe1-449f-9b07-15ecac3abb6c">Re: Grooms sisters to attend bachlorette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe the OP doesn't want to invite the groom's sisters to the bach party because she felt obligated to put them in the WP but doesn't really like them?  If that's true, she shouldn't have asked them to be in the WP in the first place, but she did, so now they should be invited to the bach party.
Posted by cocoreo3[/QUOTE]

That's also a possibility.  But until she comes back to explain her reasoning, I'm sticking with "I plan on doing something inappropriate possibly involving another man's penis and therefore don't want my future in-laws to see and tattle."

DanielleD7782

Thanks for understanding Calypso. This was an awful situation to be in. She acts like she doesn't even remember it. Maybe she doesn't since she was so black out drunk. Still doesn't excuse her behavior. Main reason why I'm not friendly with her to this day.

[Deleted User]

Is it because of the penis cake? Cause if so, you could just not have one.

And yeah. Danielle. Wow.

Calypso1977

ive never understood including the groom's sisters or the bride's brothers unless tehy were close to the person whose side they be on.  my H was in his sisters wedding and he hardly knows the groom, made it clear he didnt want to be in it when his mother hinted that he might be asked, and was forced to be in it anyway out of guilt.  it was ovbious filler, as my SIL didnt think the girls could walk on their own, without an escort.

Calypso1977

Main reason why I'm not friendly with her to this day.

and see?  if your bro knew, every time you guys had a spat, this incident would be thrown in your face, and he'd blame you for the fight.  "you just dont like her because of what she supposedly did at her bachelorette".

yeah, you did the right thing.  sucks you even had to be in that position.

angie74

I'm in my brother's wedding. his FI asked me, and I was sort of cornered into saying yes. I later told my brother that I didn't want to do it, and he said "it's really important to her mom that you do"

WTF. I don't know her mom. I don't care. But I will be standing up there wearing green satin. 

Calypso1977

green satin, that you probably paid big bucks for too.   makes ya feel kinda used, doesnt it? 

SwedishChick2011

Who's to say Danielle's brother would have believed her anyway?  Maybe he would have thought she was trying to sabotage his relationship and just gotten upset.  He would have asked his fiance about it, she would have denied it, saying that his sister hated her, and then it would have been a big mess. 

I think under the circumstances Danielle made the right call.  It would have been different if her brother had been open to any advice about the relationship before.

kate51485

If it still makes you sick to think about, not telling him was definitely not the right call.

suz62984

Its pretty rude to ask them to spend the money to be in your wedding (Dress, shoes, hair, makeup) and then not invite them to your fun night. Its like saying you aren't important enough to hang out with me but please buy stuff and be in the wedding for show!

Pirata13

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_grooms-sisters-attend-bachlorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:499ed6c6-7563-40fe-a060-0c7c115c6e68Post:cf730907-ea94-4bf6-8d70-51b942e3066e">Re: Grooms sisters to attend bachlorette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]The first thing I think of when I read this is "What are you going to be doing that you don't want his sisters to know about."
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

THIS.

stinkerbell6879

Hummm....It must be bad.....OP has still not answered....

AmoroAgain

Um, I don't even like my older sister, but you can bet your ass I'd tell her if I saw her groom or H doing shiit like that.  Zero excuse Danielle.  ZERO.  I'd rather cause a family feud for him not believing me than to lie to his face every day forever.  You can suck it.

evabee

Phew! I could not deal with NOT telling my own brother. But when it comes down to it, if I thought I could possibly lose my brother to her bitchass forever if I told him and he ignored me, I would gladly lie to his denial-ridden face. 

It may be selfish, but I would think he is better off knowing that he has us there to support him if/when SIL Fs everything up, than feel alone because I told him and he didn't believe me and now he feels too bad and proud to accept my support or because he shoots the messenger and alienates our family.

Then again, a girlfriend of my brother's has never made out with another guy in front of me... so I have no idea what I would do, but I can only assume it would include 3 parts whiskey and 2 parts punch in her cheating lips. But that's just me

Classic_amity

Ohhhh c'mon people. Stop talking down to this Danielle chick. You don't even know the girl, her situation or how crazy effed up her family may be! I can see a conversation with my parents going much the same way. Twisted? Yes. But hey, that's family! Guilt is just course for the par. And Denial? It's not just a river in Egypt... it's a freaking ocean!

Now, let's get back to what this post is supposed to be about! Sounds like you were obligated in have these in-laws be in your party. If you were too nervous about the consequence or fallout of saying "no, I don't want them to be in my wedding party..."  then you kind of have to deal with the hand which you dealt yourself. 

So no midget male strippers. Sorry!