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This is now about wedding rings

Due to TK shenanigans-- Tell me about your rings and how you chose to budget for them. Did your e-ring come with a mate? Does your ring match your hubby/FI?


Or you can talk about Pineapple. Also a legit choice.

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Re: This is now about wedding rings

  • He bought my rings without my help, so I don't know how he budgeted.  He had them both made, but the wedding ring was made later - not at the same time.

    I bought his ring, and it wasn't very expensive, so I didn't do any special budgeting for it.
  • edited August 2010
    H was on his own for the budget on the e-ring. 

    We picked out our bands ourselves and that cost came out of the whole wedding budget pot that we were working from and we budgeted them to be under $1,000 together (kind of high because I wanted a half-eternity band).  It worked out really well and we came in well under budget since FI picked out a titanium ring.

    Do they match?  They're both various shades of gray.  Mine are white gold and shiny and his is a darker, brushed finish gray.
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  • huh. I think I answered this somewhere else.

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  • There's nothing better than fresh pineapple.

    We didn't really set a budget for wedding bands. As luck would have it, my grandmother offered my great grandmother's wedding band to me, so I took it. She wouldn't let me give her any money for it, so we didn't spend anything on mine. FI decided he wanted Tungsten (no idea why), which is actually not that expensive. His ring is going to be about $250, with custom engraving on the inside. It's this one:




    Since mine is over 50 years old, and his is brand new, they obviously won't match. There's a crappy picture of mine in my bio.


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  • I wanted a channel set eternity band, but we bought a house instead.

    Instead, we bought matching white gold bands and had them engraved.  I can wait for the diamond eternity band :)
  • my ering and wedding band were a set from overstock retailed at around 2K i think and he got it for about $600, quite a deal!!!
    i got his ring from overstock too, a tungsten, for only $70
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  • No e-ring; we decided not to.

    My wedding ring is an heirloom. It belonged to his great-grandmother and had been unworn since she passed over 30 years ago.

    His ring -- we couldn't decide on what style so we went with a titanium for now; we'll upgrade when we find one we like.
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  • We got cheaper bands for now and figured we'll get matching ones for a big anniversary down the road. He will probably lose his before our 1-year anniversary so we didn't want to get anything super expensive. My wedding and e-rings don't match at all, except they both have sapphires.
  • H picked out my e-ring. He knew exactly the kinda I wanted and it was perfect. He bought a ring that he could afford.

    As far as the bands went, we picked them out together. H was actually more than mine bc it is 14kt white gold and quite thick and meaty, just what he wanted. My band has baguette and round diamonds on the top which contrasts nicely with my princess cut white gold solitare. I just didn't like the princess cut bands and I knew I wanted diamonds on my band.
  • H bought my e-ring himself.  He had saved for the downpayment and put the rest on a credit account at the store.  I picked my ring out though.

    We picked our bands out together, and really didn't set a budget for them.  He wanted tungsten originally, but when he heard they can't be cut off or sized, he opted not to get it.  He ended up pickng a white gold band with .5 carats of diamonds on it.  He said if I get bling he gets bling. 
    My band is a 1 carat anniversary band.  They ended up matching each other but we didn't purposely pick them to match. 
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  • Travis had been saving up for a while for my ring. We went together to ring stores so he could get an idea of what I like.

    We ended up buying the diamond quickly. We told the jeweler our price range, and he brought a few diamonds out for us to look at that were in the range, and then showed us one that was a little higher in price and quality.

    Travis asked me which one I wanted, and I pointed at one and told him that I thought that it was pretty, and he said "what about that one" pointing to the more expensive one. I told him that it was up to him, that I wasn't going to make him spend more than he planned, and he ended up getting the better diamond for me.

    We picked 2 settings that day, and he went back and chose later which one to give to me. One was a bridal set, and the other wasn't, but I pointed out a band that I thought would go well with it.

    His band doesn't match mine, but that didn't really matter to either of us.



  • Sorry Moose, TK made a double post.

    I have FI ring, but the designer is dead, so I can't get a matching one. I just keep looking at my budgeter thing and scowling at it. Plus, I want something that can be a stand alone without the e-ring, so that's a pain.
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  • For his band, I gave him my budget and told him to find something he liked, then I bought it.  For mine, I knew I wanted something really small because my e-ring has a lot going on.  We just happened to run across it one day at Macy's on sale, and it matched my ring perfectly.

    So yeah, our rings don't match at all. 

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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_andy-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:4a0c32c2-73a1-416b-a107-908330bbb800Post:4c1a7a88-5a8d-4c40-9d89-dc70acb1c62a">Re: This is now about wedding rings</a>:
    [QUOTE]Sorry Moose, TK made a double post. I have FI ring, but the designer is dead, so I can't get a matching one. I just keep looking at my budgeter thing and scowling at it. Plus, <strong>I want something that can be a stand alone without the e-ring, so that's a pain.</strong>
    Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]
    That was my biggest problem too. I did a lot of shopping to see what would look good with or without my e-ring and found very little. But my great grandmother's band turned out to fit the bill.
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  • Hetsup how can you NOT like oreos? 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_andy-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:4a0c32c2-73a1-416b-a107-908330bbb800Post:e08d2584-de12-4333-9e9c-24db10839be4">Re: This is now about wedding rings</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: This is now about wedding rings : That was my biggest problem too. I did a lot of shopping to see what would look good with or without my e-ring and found very little. But my great grandmother's band turned out to fit the bill.
    Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

    Well, give it here. I'm calling dibs.
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  • I.LOVE.PINEAPPLE!!

    It is so sweet and juicy.  A friend of mine doesn't like it, and I don't understand.

    Maybe we should start an "I don't understand" thread . . .
  • Tungsten can be cut off a finger if necessary. But, it cannot be sized. It has to be ordered to size.

    We bought my two rings together, then went back about a month later and bought J's tungsten carbide ring. The jeweler who makes them closes for a month and J needed a custom size, so we were thinking 6 weeks, but it only took 2-3 to arrive. His is a deep grey brushed finish. Both of my rings are white gold with sapphires as the main stones and diamonds as accents.

    We just went in wanting to be reasonable with the costs. It helped that I wasn't wanting a diamond ering, too.
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    [QUOTE]Tungsten can be cut off a finger if necessary. But, it cannot be sized. It has to be ordered to size. Posted by missy68[/QUOTE]

    We were told by a few different jewelers that Tungsten can't be cut off.  It can be broken off with pliers or something but it shatters or something and doesn't break even so it can't be put back together.  So you would have to buy another one, where if you had to cut a gold ring off it could be soddered back together.
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  • Here's our bands: we picked them out together 5 months after we got engaged, his is a size 9, mine is a 5, they had to size it for me, he picked it up 2 days later. We basically had an idea of how much rings would be by looking online, he was set on a two-tone one. We got both on sale but mine was still a little more than we had budgeted but I loved it so we went ahead and got it.











  • But you're still saving a finger - which is more important, soldering the ring together (no you can't do that) or saving the finger? All ERs and I think possibly EMTs carry a tool that will cut the band off.

    I can buy another band; I can't buy him another finger! He doesn't wear his ring to work for these reasons - in fact, I think jewelry of any kind isn't allowed. They even put their work badges inside their shirts (at least he does). He wears it when we go out or on vacation.
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  • H wanted the titanium ring and it was only $99 so if we have to buy him another one someday if he needs a larger size or has to have it cut off for some reason, that's ok.  I'm not sentimental about the actual metal that's on his finger.
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  • 1st marriage: I knew what size diamond I wanted for the engagement ring and we researched to get an idea of what that would cost. We were both comfortable with the cost. Ironically, when we went to choose, I actually opted for a diamond slightly smaller and the cost was about $2,000 less than what we had thought it would be.

    I don't think we budgeted for the bands -- just chose what we liked.

    2nd marriage: I opted not to get an engagement ring at all. We were renovating a house, which was eating up tons of money, and lived in a neighborhood where I would have been uncomfortable wearing a large diamond anyway. We've since moved so I'd feel fine wearing a diamond, but haven't sold that house so money is still tight.

    Bands: For me, I chose what I liked and we didn't worry about the money. Dh actually found his at a street fair of all places and it cost less than $20. I kept telling him he could get a "nicer" one if he wanted, but he really loves it.
  • I didn't say anything about not saving a finger, or that he or I think his ring is more important than his finger.  I said he didn't want tungsten because it couldnt' be cut off.  H can't wear his at work either, so he will have to take it off when he goes into work.  He still wears it everyday though other than that. 

    He changed his mind on the tungsten when I broke my wrist snowboarding in January and he saw how swollen my hand and fingers got by the time ski patrol got me to the bottom of the hill.  I barely got my ring off, I had to use soap and carefully not move my hand.  So that was enough to scare him into needing something that could be cut. 
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  • We went shopping for our wedding bands together.  We have matching metals but I have channel set round diamonds on mine, and his is plain white gold.  I also got him a titanium band for "every day" use because he thought the gold band was too heavy.  We'll see.  We didn't have a set budget, but we felt our bands were very reasonable.
  • edited August 2010
    My Fi set a budget for my e-ring. It was... what he was willing to pay, basically. It wasn't like "3 months salary" or anything like that. It's a vintage ring, and didn't come with a band.

    We actually just ordered my band about 3 weeks ago. It's being custom made to fit flush against my e-ring and will have some diamonds to match the small diamonds on the sides of my ring and then a wheat pattern in the rest of the ring.

    FI is getting a ring that will pretty much match. My rings are platinum. He wanted a white metal, but is nervous about having to have white gold redipped. So he's probably getting palladium. He was going to go with something with two grooves around the outside of the ring and a plain center, but he decided to get a custom engraved wheat pattern in the center to match my ring.

    No pics yet, cause they're still being made! Oh, and ring budget... um, well mine needed to be platinum, so that's expensive. We went to the jewelry district downtown where rings are apparantly CHEAP.
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  • Mr. Arb wanted a slightly non-traditional ring, so his is black titanium.  My ring is the ring my dad gave to my mom for their 10th anniversary.
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  • Due to TK shenanigans--

    Tell me about your rings and how you chose to budget for them. I had MLK day off of work & wanted to do something productive, so we went to the mall. The 1st store we went to (also the store my e-ring is from) I DID NOT like the salesguy. He didn't listen to me when I told him I just wanted a diamond band. He kept trying to sell me wraps, & also mentioned I could re-set my solitaire into a 1 piece "bridal" ring.

    So we ended up getting our bands at the store across the hall.

    & I'm glad we did because I saw a sales flyer for store #1 a few weeks later for V-day, & the SAME RING we bought for FI was $_00. We only spent $40 more than that for BOTH bands.

    Did your e-ring come with a mate? No

    Does your ring match your hubby/FI? Yes


    Or you can talk about Pineapple. Also a legit choice. Since I went to Jamaica 2xs in HS, I refuse to eat canned. Produce from the store is OK, but not as good.

  • FI asked me to send him pics of e-rings that I liked so I did.  I didn't expect him to get my number one choice because it was expensive and intricate; I thought he'd show it to the jewelry designer and get a similar style.  Luckily for us, his friend's dad is a jeweler and was able to re-create the ring.  We didn't discuss the budget, and he ended up paying more than I thought he would.

    We don't have bands, but I'd like a band to match my setting, which would be a pave 70% band in platinum. 

    He likes the look of titanium bands, but we haven't bought his yet. 

    I plan to buy the wedding bands since he bought the e-ring.
  • First marriage:  I had a diamond ring I had inherited from my grandmother.  He had it reset in a white gold setting for me as an e-ring.  It was a solitaire, and we got a plain white gold wedding band to match it.  I got him a yellow gold band, so his ring didn't match mine.

    Second marriage:  Neither of us wanted an e-ring.  NotFroofy had a plain yellow gold wedding band she had inherited from her grandmother back in Wales.  I had known even before I met her that if I ever remarried, I wanted a plain yellow gold wedding band, so that part was easy. 

    The only issue was that the ring NotFroofy had was 22 karat gold, and she wanted the ring I gave her to match it.  When we tried locally, we were told that 22 karat gold wedding rings were pretty much unavailable in this country.  She figured she would just look for a similar 18 karat gold ring.  However, I figured that if her grandmother (who was not particularly well off) had a 22 karat gold ring, other Welsh brides must have had similar rings.  I therefore went onto eBay UK to find out.  I found a ring for NotFroofy that was nearly identical, and even from about the same time period.




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