Hi, I know there's been many variations on this same question, but all the same I appreciate your advice!
I have a guy friend who used to be my running partner, we saw each other very frequently while he was training for a big event, we got to be friends. I met my fiance during this time, and the three of us hung out together several times.
I lost touch w/ this friend, mostly due to my preference - he's a little socially awkward, and I just didn't have time to continue running as much when I got a new job. I last saw this friend just before Christmas last year so he does not know of my engagement. We live in the same neighborhood and he's been calling to get together again and catch up. So I'm going to be seeing him soon, probably for dinner or something like that. I do not want to invite him to my wedding, and I feel he's the kind of person who might have an expectation of it.
So since I'm having a DW, am I totally fine saying that we're having a small destination wedding only... and let him get the hint? Ours may not actually be that small though. He's not in any of my immediate social circles of close friends who I am inviting. I'm not good at this kind of thing, just need to prepare myself in case he asks for details.