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Father of the Groom speech "most important"?
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Quick question for you all!
Last night at dinner my FFIL said that his speech would be the most important speech given at the wedding because his speech is used as the toast to the bride. He also mentioned that he would like to take some of my father's speech time if he doesn't want to use it (my dad is more soft spoken- but wants to and will give a speech as we are very close).
I know it isn't a huge deal...but how do I tell him that my father's speech is also important?
What is the usual order for speeches? Has anyone else ever heard this before, that the FOG's speech is the most important?
Quick question for you all!
Last night at dinner my FFIL said that his speech would be the most important speech given at the wedding because his speech is used as the toast to the bride. He also mentioned that he would like to take some of my father's speech time if he doesn't want to use it (my dad is more soft spoken- but wants to and will give a speech as we are very close).
I know it isn't a huge deal...but how do I tell him that my father's speech is also important?
What is the usual order for speeches? Has anyone else ever heard this before, that the FOG's speech is the most important?
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Re: Father of the Groom speech "most important"?
We definitely want less speeches, more dancing and partying. Which is why his comments last night threw me for a loop a little bit. I think he is expecting more of a 10 minute speech rather than the 3-4 minutes we were thinking.
I will just have to be specific with my wishes!
Usually toasts are FOB, BM and sometimes the groom
Recently I've seen more maid of honors speaches
[QUOTE]My FIL toasted us at the RD. My father toasted us at the wedding reception. Neither speech lasted more than 2 minutes. <strong>4 minutes would be a long welcome speech.</strong>
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
<div>Exactly. If the fathers do speak, it is supposed to be to thank eveyone for coming, not to toast the couple. The toasts are for the BM/MOH.</div>
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We plan to say a very brief welcome, as we're hosting, followed by toasts from the MOH and BM.
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The host of the wedding reception, which is the FOB, begins the meal with a toast to everyone who has come to the reception and especially the bride and groom. Then the Best Man gives a toast to the bride and groom. Sometimes the MOH gives a toast also. That's IT. There is no place for the FOG to give a toast at the wedding reception.
[QUOTE]The host of the RD, which is the FOG, begins the RD with a toast to everyone who has come to the RD and especially the bride and groom. The host of the wedding reception, which is the FOB, begins the meal with a toast to everyone who has come to the reception and especially the bride and groom. Then the Best Man gives a toast to the bride and groom. Sometimes the MOH gives a toast also. That's IT. There is no place for the FOG to give a toast at the wedding reception.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
Kristin, please don't leave out important details. You are going to lead this poor girl astray.
Sorry OP, Kristin forgot that immediately after the FOB's toast, the guests should accompany the b&g to their bridal suite to inspect the sheets, and then help them into bed so that they may make sweet coitus. Some well to do families like to leave the dowry out for others to see, but this is YOUR call- if you don't want sheep and other assorted livestock hanging about as you're deflowered, you don't have to oblige that request.
You're welcome, Kristin. Fixed it for you. Please be more careful next time.
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