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Invitation mistake!

I was looking at our invitations today and I realized we may have made a small mistake.  Luckily, not a typo that would require us to reorder them all!  On our response cards, we used one of the samples online and it looks like this:




The wording just asks for the Names and Number of Guests.  I didn't notice until today that response cards usually have a line below to check either "will attend" or "will not attend".  Doh!!!

I have tested out and I can add those lines below on our printer and match the color and font almost perfectly.  However, you can tell if you look closely that it was added.  FI thinks no one will notice and it will be easier for guests to add it.  What do you guys think?  We'll probably add it, but it bugs me that it isn't perfect.  If we were to leave it the way it is, will it be confusing to guests?  Like, will they put 0 for number of guests if they can't make it?

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  • Let. it. Go.

    If you're getting this worked up about the RSVPs, I'd hate to see you a week before the wedding.

    No wedding is perfect.  The sooner you learn this, the easier the wedding planning will be.
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    Couldnt just people put ZERO if no one is coming???
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    [QUOTE]Like, will they put 0 for number of guests if they can't make it?
    Posted by noodle_oo[/QUOTE]
    That's what i was thinking I would do if I received that in the mail... It sounds kinda harsh to write 0, though. Like... abbrasive or something.

    I really don't think it's THAT big of a deal, though. if you're really worried, add it in on the computer. I doubt anyone will notice or care that it was just added in there.
    What i am worried about, though, is that this could create just more work for you.
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  • Those are cute!
    I'd add it on, people get too easily confused I think.
  • I would just leave it. Half of my "no" rspv's would write "I'm so sorry I can't make it, love you guys!" on the card anyways. If I received one I would probably just write "I cannot attend, congratulations and have a great day!"
  • I would add it on, but that is just me.

    I think if you don't want to deal with the extra hassle, then you can just leave it. Most people will figure out to put "0" if they can't attend.
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  • I think you should probably add it. Some people might think that you only want the cards returned if they are attending, which could lead to a headache later.

    No one will notice that you added it, and it will make it less confusing. Everyone will know you expect to get the RSVP back regardless of whether they are attending. 
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  • I would be confused. I would see the "number of guests" line as an indicator of how many +1s I was bringing.. as in the number of my guests. THat was my first reaction, anyway.

    Then, I'd put all of our names on the names line.

    I'm not sure how you would word it to make it better, unless you added "attending" after the ____.
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    [QUOTE]Couldnt just people put ZERO if no one is coming???
    Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

    This. If I received that card and couldn't attend, I'd write my name, put "0" on the line and send it back.
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  • Thanks for the advice everyone!  Looking at it this morning, you can barely tell at all that it was added (unless you are crazy like me).  :)  So I think I will just add it since I'm worried about confusing responses, adding it will probably be less stressful in the long run.

    Thanks!

    PS.  I have to say, I love photoshop!!  I can't believe how easy it was to add it and match it closely.  Phew!
  • Many people will not write their names anyway....they will simply reply yes or no...so what we are doing is numbering the RSVP's.  we are handwriting just a small number on the back and tracking it on an excel spreadsheet.  So if we get an RSVP with no name or an illegible name, we will know who responded...

    Hope this helps....you dont need to panic!! no one will really notice if you print the extra lines on yourself....
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  • If you want to you can always keep the same font and change the color (or change the font) and try to make it look like you ordered it that way. Most people probably wouldn't do this but I'm really into design and we made our RSVP cards & Accomodation/Direction cards ourselves and the only way I put a creative spin on them was with the fonts & colors. Just a thought.
  • I just noticed my response cards read the same way. I mailed them on Thursday.  I have received ones like this before and if I could not attend, I wrote 0 and wrote have a great day or sorry I can't be there.  I knowmy family will do the same.  I will see what happens!  I think my problem will be more people not responding at all!
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  • I would leave it as it. We didn't have a "Will Attend" and "Will not attend" place. We just had "Number of guests ______" and those who couldn't attend just put 0. No one got confused about this. I think if you try to add it on, it'll be noticeable.
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  • I had this same issue.  I've gotten almost 1/2 of the rsvps back and its interesting to see that while every guest did something differently on the invite, they all figured out a way to convey to me the number of the party attending, even if that was 0.  Its not a big deal and your wedding will still be great.
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    [QUOTE]I just noticed my response cards read the same way. I mailed them on Thursday.  I have received ones like this before and if I could not attend, I wrote 0 and wrote have a great day or sorry I can't be there.  I knowmy family will do the same.  I will see what happens! <strong> I think my problem will be more people not responding at all</strong>!
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  • Add it.  That way it's crystal clear to everyone that you need it back either way.  It doesn't matter whether the ink/font match, it's the information that's important.
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